Danmar
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
I think for most people their partner is their best friend but so often when the spouse dies you are left friendless . That is why in IMO it is good to have a few other friends.
Totally agree.
I think for most people their partner is their best friend but so often when the spouse dies you are left friendless . That is why in IMO it is good to have a few other friends.
I think for most people their partner is their best friend but so often when the spouse dies you are left friendless . That is why in IMO it is good to have a few other friends.
Absolutely. Why should tenure be the overriding factor? Sometimes people change and old friends drift away. We have found that we are closest to relatively newer friends. In retirement we took up new activities like skiing and biking. Met lots of people doing these activities and because we share interests are quite close. I think life is a journey. Keep moving!!
Absolutely. Why should tenure be the overriding factor? Sometimes people change and old friends drift away. We have found that we are closest to relatively newer friends. In retirement we took up new activities like skiing and biking. Met lots of people doing these activities and because we share interests are quite close. I think life is a journey. Keep moving!!
Interesting perspective, thanks. I have found my 25+ year friendships to be one of the elements of my life I value most. We don't have family close by and both of our families are small. Friends and weather are the two biggest things keeping us in So CA. I know DH & I could enjoy living elsewhere, but don't know that I want to negatively impact our long-term friendships. Good to know making new friends has worked out well for you and several others.
I think true friendship needs the test of time.
No argument there. But how long? I find 5-10 years a pretty good "seasoning period"? Since I retired 11 years ago, this provides enough time to make some new "true friends" at least in my opinion.
I'm sort of a cross between "introvert" and "extrovert." I love to converse, but not necessarily about the things everyone else wants to talk about. In unpredictable fashion, I make jokes when everybody else is serious, and am serious when everybody else claims to be joking. Also, while not teetotal, I barely drink, and alcohol seems terribly important to older people (yes, I know there are exceptions - I happen to be one of them). It makes socializing a challenge.
Were we separated at birth?
Also, while not teetotal, I barely drink, and alcohol seems terribly important to older people (yes, I know there are exceptions - I happen to be one of them). It makes socializing a challenge.
I was thinking the same thing, ha ha
I found that alcohol seems to be not only important but critical to all age levels in this country. That is one very important reason why I have never sought or needed the company of others. And not just after retirement or in old age. I mean going back to high school
When I talk about friends, I mean those people that, if I am in hospital, I can ask them to take my children to their home for a few days.
I was thinking the same thing, ha ha
I found that alcohol seems to be not only important but critical to all age levels in this country. That is one very important reason why I have never sought or needed the company of others. And not just after retirement or in old age. I mean going back to high school
I also am an introvert. I've met a few people in our retirement subdivision that I'd like to get to know better but it seems almost every conversation either starts or drifts off into a discussion about sports. I don't watch sports, don't care about sports, and often wonder how can people spend so much time on something so meaningless (at least to me). Often when asked about the last or upcoming game I respond with either a blank stare or say I don't follow sports. That's when the conversation dies off. I'm fairly well versed in many subjects, read quite a bit, but most everyone wants to talk about sports. Thankfully I'm happy being alone and do enjoy reading.
I also am an introvert. I've met a few people in our retirement subdivision that I'd like to get to know better but it seems almost every conversation either starts or drifts off into a discussion about sports. I don't watch sports, don't care about sports, and often wonder how can people spend so much time on something so meaningless (at least to me). Often when asked about the last or upcoming game I respond with either a blank stare or say I don't follow sports. That's when the conversation dies off. I'm fairly well versed in many subjects, read quite a bit, but most everyone wants to talk about sports. Thankfully I'm happy being alone and do enjoy reading.
I think for most people their partner is their best friend but so often when the spouse dies you are left friendless . That is why in IMO it is good to have a few other friends.
I also am an introvert. I've met a few people in our retirement subdivision that I'd like to get to know better but it seems almost every conversation either starts or drifts off into a discussion about sports. I don't watch sports, don't care about sports, and often wonder how can people spend so much time on something so meaningless (at least to me). Often when asked about the last or upcoming game I respond with either a blank stare or say I don't follow sports. That's when the conversation dies off. I'm fairly well versed in many subjects, read quite a bit, but most everyone wants to talk about sports. Thankfully I'm happy being alone and do enjoy reading.
say I don't follow sports.
Seems to be a lot of introverts here. Extroverts? Just me, Kcowan, and a few others?