Nemo2
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I suspect most of us are actually ambiverts.
I'm ambivalent about that......(but I suspect you're right).
I suspect most of us are actually ambiverts.
Seems to be a lot of introverts here. Extroverts? Just me, Kcowan, and a few others?
Ambiverts have a distinct advantage over true introverts and extroverts. Because their personality doesn’t lean too heavily in either direction, they have a much easier time adjusting their approach to people based on the situation. This enables them to connect more easily, and more deeply, with a wider variety of people.
Extroverts are easygoing and are less interested in FIRE. They like to make money, spend money, and have fun. Lol.
+1I suspect most of us are actually ambiverts.
What's your definition of 'fun'?
Drinking at bars, for example.
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I suspect most of us are actually ambiverts.
5 - 10 years is a good seasoning period...I have a few "newer" friends of that length. But, I also have friends of 35 years, and there is a long history that can't be duplicated with new friends. Back in the day there was a party or get together every weekend, we played on the same sports teams for years, took weekend trips together. We've been to each others weddings, seen their career advances or changes, watched their children grow into adults, given some of them support after a divorce, etc.
I guess I'm fortunate to have both long time friendships and some newer ones.
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I don't feel like maintaining these long-term friendships is being "stuck in the past." We've all evolved and grown together and the relationships have ebbed & flowed accordingly.
We may make more new friends now that we've recently retired. I think the catalyst for this would be taking up new interests or relocating.
Maintaining old friends is wonderful, as long as your values and interests are still consistent.
An excellent point. This is a bit of a dilemma for me.
I have two very good old friends; both live far away from me. I've known them both for well over 50 years and I still keep in touch with both regularly.
Back when we were young, we were all on the same page, but in the last 5 years or so, one has drifted far to the left while the other went far to the right. I like to think I'm still kind of in the center. Both extremes make me very uncomfortable.
As a result, I'm drifting away from both of them (and needless to say they have completely broken with each other).
Sad.
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DW is my best friend. I've never really had a close male friend. More like couples interactions. So I'm jealous of those guys that have that. I'm not into sports talk and would probably rather talk about things like economics or science or gardening or ...
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Why am I finding this thread a bit depressing? Maybe it is because my "friend account" is very small.
DW is my best friend. I've never really had a close male friend. More like couples interactions. So I'm jealous of those guys that have that. I'm not into sports talk and would probably rather talk about things like economics or science or gardening or ...
This year we joined a gym and I have occasional interactions with others there. It's a friendly gym with a lot of older folks. DW makes friends in her dance classes (like Zumba) there and sometimes I meet them too.
Sometimes I have interesting short conversations with people I meet in the park while I do stretching in between my runs.
I'm getting better at asking good questions of people I meet to open up conversational channels. Less talk about me.
I totally agree with you. Maintaining old friends is wonderful, as long as your values and interests are still consistent. I certainly wouldn't say this is living in the past.
As we age though, I think it is also important to make new friends. You wouldn't want to be like my in laws who late in life found all their friends had passed on. Keeping and making new friends takes a fair bit of effort, but I think worth it as we age.