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Old 09-26-2008, 07:40 AM   #41
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Whitestick,

I'm saddened by your news of your wife's cancer and both of you will be in my prayers. I second the recommendation of going to MD Anderson for treatment of her rare form of cancer.

In early 2007 I was diagnosed with a cancer that has a dismal survival rate. After surgery, radiation and chemo treatment I am cancer free so miracles do happen. Please don't try to carry this burden just my yourself. Your faith, friends and family are there to offer support for you both.

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Old 09-26-2008, 08:16 AM   #42
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2soon, I have been wondering about you. Glad to know that treatment went well.
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2soon, I have been wondering about you. Glad to know that treatment went well.
Same here.
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Old 09-26-2008, 11:02 AM   #44
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Whitestick:

It's not the end of the world. My DW just finished with her DES Daugthers cancer (Clear cell carcinoma) treatment a few weeks ago. I know how you feel. We work hard to take care of ourselves all our life and were looking for a decently happy ER until the bad news a few months ago.

Be there for her. That's all I can say.

I wish you and DW the very best....
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Old 09-26-2008, 11:36 PM   #45
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Thanks for everyones expressions of hope. The frustrating part is in trying to obtain understandable and believable information from those who are supposed to help. Won't go into it now, but having worked in engineering disciplines most of my life, it seems there is little hard evidence or facts that can be dealt with in this arena.
I did manage to put a smile on DWs lips today even though some might consider it gallows humor - it seems that her form of cancer is so rare that a couple of clinical trial researchers have become overly enthusiastic to get her into their trials (ostensibly because there are not enough with her condition to try these experiments on). I suggested to wifey that we should put a listing in Craiglist seeking best offer for her services as a subject for their trials.
Given the moroseness of the past week, it seemed to be just enough to make her smile - and that was worth it. She even wanted to go to the gym tonight after that.
Again thanks for your prayers and well wishes.
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I just noticed this thread, whitestick. You and your wife are in my thoughts and I'm sending positive wishes your way.
Just two weeks ago I went wild blueberry picking with my friend who was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer two years ago that had advanced pretty much all over, especially her lungs. She has managed to battle it into remission. She was not expected to live, much less go hiking in the mountains and pick berries all day! And drive us to the trailhead over rough road, besides!
I wanted you to know that the experience has not been entirely negative for her. She has learned to not put things off, and has learned to enjoy each day to the fullest and not take things for granted.
Each day is a gift. Even the hard days.
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Old 09-27-2008, 09:57 PM   #47
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I wish I were wise enough to be able to say something that would make you at least feel okay about the situation, but really, there's nothing that could make it okay, is it? I will pray for you and your wife. It's very fortunate that you each have someone that you've been able to rely on for all these years - that's a wonderful thing.
Big hug for you both!
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...I did manage to put a smile on DWs lips today even though some might consider it gallows humor - it seems that her form of cancer is so rare that a couple of clinical trial researchers have become overly enthusiastic to get her into their trials (ostensibly because there are not enough with her condition to try these experiments on). I suggested to wifey that we should put a listing in Craiglist seeking best offer for her services as a subject for their trials.
Given the moroseness of the past week, it seemed to be just enough to make her smile - and that was worth it. She even wanted to go to the gym tonight after that.
i see someone making lemonade out of lemons. i admire both of your spirits!
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We received some great news today, although we still have to wait for some confirming pathology reports, but her latest PET scan shows no visible cancer. Doc is not sure if this means it is all microscopic and will have to wait for it to get bigger to show up, or if by the grace of GOD, the first surgeon got it all when he was in there mucking about. He wasn't even aware of it being cancerous, was looking for something else. It appears this all means that we caught it early. According to the Doc, the normal stats are based on a much later diagnosis, and more symptoms occurring, which generates the short survival times often quoted. I know this disease is a series of highs and lows, but for now, we'll take this high, for however long it might be. We are still aggressively pursuing the specialists to see what they think, but at least DW can get a nights sleep without waking up thinking about it, or at least I hope so.
Thanks for all your well wishes and prayers, I'm sure that was at least partially the source of this good news.
You are all invited to have a drink with me tonight, if only virtually at this point, since she still is not supposed to drink yet.
Thanks and maybe Life doesn't suck so much.
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Whitestick,

Ugh. I'm so sorry.

Only you will know what your wife needs from you, but be sure to let others know what they can do to help (laundry? dinners? mowing the lawn?). Don't go it alone.

I'm lucky enough to have three "miracle" cancer survivors among my family and friends. All of them had hopeless diagnoses and all of them are currently living vibrant lives. Two of them are cancer-free, one for 20 years.

All of them research like crazy and press for answers. They never give up.

Strength to you both in the days ahead.
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You are all invited to have a drink with me tonight, if only virtually at this point, since she still is not supposed to drink yet.
Thanks and maybe Life doesn't suck so much.
The heck with waiting until tonight...I'm gonna toast the both of you now!
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4:11 here on the east coast...i'm toasting your most excellent news.
it's just cranberry juice but what the heck?
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So happy to hear your encouraging news! With all the distress about the economy and politics, it's nice to hear some good news (and your wife's ordeal puts it all in perspective).
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My condolences post must have gotten bogged down with all the others -- SO GLAD for your happy news today! As for drinks -- I always love peach italian sodas when I'm not supposed to be drinking alcohol.... Cheers!
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Makes the market meltdown kinda irrelevent doesn't it. My best wishes (not that they will change anything). Hope for the best and do what you can to make that hope possible. Good luck yo you.
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Whitestick that is great news! I will continue to keep you both in my prayers.
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I'm toasting to your good news !
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I usually drink "two buck Chuck," but tonight, for your good news, I've opened up a good bottle of wine. My continued prayers for your guys.
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