JustCurious
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In my opinion, selecting the right spouse or life partner is probably one of the single most important financial decisions we can make. A spouse who shares your values and financial goals can help you by working as a team towards the same goal, ie LBYM, avoid bad debt, save, invest, reach financial independence. On the other hand, a spouse can also have a severe negative impact on reaching your financial goals by overspending, incurring unnecessary debt, not saving, and making it difficult or impossible for you to obtain your goal of financial independence.
I am very fortunate that my spouse is not high maintenance, and she shares my desire to LBYM to achieve FI. We live a comfortable life, but certainly below the standard that we could live if we chose to "keep up with the Joneses" like others in our peer group. For example, we live in a modest yet comfortable house in a modest middle class neighborhood that we purchased over 11 years ago when we were starting out and money was tight. We could now easily *afford* to pay the mortgage payment for a house that is 2-3 times the value, and I know that our income is well above all of our neighbors (at least double for some). I know from first hand knowledge that other wives of other guys in my peer group would not "tolerate" our current living conditions, and they have already moved up at least once, sometimes twice, to bigger newer homes, with larger and larger mortgage and tax payments. In fact, I know one guy who moved up to a more expensive home because his wife pressured him into it, and soon after, she divorced him and got the house. By contrast, we are happy where we live right now knowing that we are working towards the FI prize, and don't feel the need to "upgrade."
What are your experiences regarding your SO and how their financial goals fit with yours? Do you agree that the selection of a life partner is a very important factor in whether you acheive your financial goals? I think this issue is often overlooked as a critically important personal finance issue.
I am very fortunate that my spouse is not high maintenance, and she shares my desire to LBYM to achieve FI. We live a comfortable life, but certainly below the standard that we could live if we chose to "keep up with the Joneses" like others in our peer group. For example, we live in a modest yet comfortable house in a modest middle class neighborhood that we purchased over 11 years ago when we were starting out and money was tight. We could now easily *afford* to pay the mortgage payment for a house that is 2-3 times the value, and I know that our income is well above all of our neighbors (at least double for some). I know from first hand knowledge that other wives of other guys in my peer group would not "tolerate" our current living conditions, and they have already moved up at least once, sometimes twice, to bigger newer homes, with larger and larger mortgage and tax payments. In fact, I know one guy who moved up to a more expensive home because his wife pressured him into it, and soon after, she divorced him and got the house. By contrast, we are happy where we live right now knowing that we are working towards the FI prize, and don't feel the need to "upgrade."
What are your experiences regarding your SO and how their financial goals fit with yours? Do you agree that the selection of a life partner is a very important factor in whether you acheive your financial goals? I think this issue is often overlooked as a critically important personal finance issue.