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bosco 07-15-2007 10:23 AM

am I the only one?
 
This is day 9 of being ER'd, and I certainly don't miss the workaday world one bit. It still feels more like a vacation than a lifestyle.

I realize that this is a big change, and change takes time. But, it seems I have still been waking up in the middle of the night thinking of work issues. Not weird fantasy problems, but the actual issues in play when I left. Once awake, I have absolutely no desire to call the office or anything like that. For all I know, they may be solved by now.

I'm sure it will go away. I remember after being out of university, I would have the classic dreams of showing up for a final and forgetting to get dressed first, etc. But I'm wondering--was anybody else plagued with work dreams shortly after ER'ing?

If so, how long did they last?

Party on, Wayne.....

Nords 07-15-2007 10:31 AM

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Originally Posted by bosco (Post 536278)
But, it seems I have still been waking up in the middle of the night thinking of work issues. Not weird fantasy problems, but the actual issues in play when I left. Once awake, I have absolutely no desire to call the office or anything like that. For all I know, they may be solved by now.
But I'm wondering--was anybody else plagued with work dreams shortly after ER'ing?
If so, how long did they last?

I used to wake up screaming, followed by shouting casualty procedures. (My long-suffering spouse is one of the few non-submariners to know the immediate actions for a reactor scram.) I'm told that I also used to "run" in my sleep and grind my teeth, so it was probably more work nightmares rather than work dreams.

It all went away after a couple years and it hasn't come back. I think my last relapse was after one of those phone calls from the old office asking "Do you remember where we kept the ...?"

cute fuzzy bunny 07-15-2007 11:02 AM

Never. After I left I couldnt care less about anything that was going on there.

One exception. When 2 weeks after I left, they had a little reorg/rif and in my department only laid off the two oldest guys, both in their 50's. I made a call to HR to remind them that there was already significant outstanding legal action regarding the company's alleged targeting of older employees and that perhaps they might reconsider that action. Which they did.

Achiever51 07-15-2007 11:42 AM

For about the first three weeks after I retired, I had a series of very vivid dreams -- each one involving some sort of danger or challenge that needed to be dealt with (but none work related). I woke up each morning exhausted and my DH told me that I was tossing and turning and even muttering in my sleep. Then one night I had the most wonderful, peaceful dream -- I don't remember the content, but remember waking up feeling rested and content. I haven't had any of the vivid dreams since.

I think I worked through all my deep work related stress issues through those three weeks' of dreams...and then was really able to let go. THEN I really felt like I was beginning my retirement.

And it is good!

Khan 07-15-2007 01:56 PM

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Originally Posted by bosco (Post 536278)
This is day 9 of being ER'd, and I certainly don't miss the workaday world one bit. It still feels more like a vacation than a lifestyle.

I realize that this is a big change, and change takes time. But, it seems I have still been waking up in the middle of the night thinking of work issues. Not weird fantasy problems, but the actual issues in play when I left. Once awake, I have absolutely no desire to call the office or anything like that. For all I know, they may be solved by now.

I'm sure it will go away. I remember after being out of university, I would have the classic dreams of showing up for a final and forgetting to get dressed first, etc. But I'm wondering--was anybody else plagued with work dreams shortly after ER'ing?

If so, how long did they last?

Party on, Wayne.....

Yes.

Part actual issues and part weird stuff (office has been moved and I can't find it, office in a cave). After a while, I would (in the dream) realize I was retired and I didn't have to be there and would walk away; then wake up, turn over and go back to sleep.

The dreams tapered off over a year or so; haven't had one for quite a while.

Interesting, the migraines also tapered off on about the same schedule.


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