I need help getting out of a doghouse.
At Thanksgiving lunch, my SIL noted that he was attending dinner at a senior partner's home later in the day, so would eat lightly. And he seemed very proud of himself for getting the invitation. Then I learned why.
Turns out the senior partner had gotten wind that one young member of his firm was negotiating with a rival firm for a position. So the SIL used his friendship with the other young guy to confirm the rumor and then secretly reported it to the senior partner.
My wife and daughter both seemed to pick up my disgust at that announcement and gave me the daggers right away. So I remained silent.
But both know that I have always taught my daughter that integrity was not only important in how others view you but also in how you ultimately view yourself. Later, I told the wife that the SIL had betrayed a colleague to gain favor from a boss who will now view him as someone to be wary of. A snitch is not someone to hold in high regard and the senior partner will doubtless use the SIL when he needs other dirt but will have zero respect in my opinion.
The wife and daughter both are mad at me for my reaction but worse they supported what he did. At least to his face.
Should I apologize or should I air it out with him so that he knows how I feel? Awkward situation at the moment.
At Thanksgiving lunch, my SIL noted that he was attending dinner at a senior partner's home later in the day, so would eat lightly. And he seemed very proud of himself for getting the invitation. Then I learned why.
Turns out the senior partner had gotten wind that one young member of his firm was negotiating with a rival firm for a position. So the SIL used his friendship with the other young guy to confirm the rumor and then secretly reported it to the senior partner.
My wife and daughter both seemed to pick up my disgust at that announcement and gave me the daggers right away. So I remained silent.
But both know that I have always taught my daughter that integrity was not only important in how others view you but also in how you ultimately view yourself. Later, I told the wife that the SIL had betrayed a colleague to gain favor from a boss who will now view him as someone to be wary of. A snitch is not someone to hold in high regard and the senior partner will doubtless use the SIL when he needs other dirt but will have zero respect in my opinion.
The wife and daughter both are mad at me for my reaction but worse they supported what he did. At least to his face.
Should I apologize or should I air it out with him so that he knows how I feel? Awkward situation at the moment.