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Have read posts along these lines, and thought "awwww, bad story".
FIL is 90 in MA. GF/caregiver is 70. She is with him maybe 80% of time, has her own apartment.
Her daughter (mid-40's) and gf/caregiver took FIL out to eat today. Daughter wants to buy FIL's house and he said no; it is meant for his son (my DH). Truthfully, we would love to live there, but taxes are $7000/yr and would be a stretch for us.
So, gf is pressuring FIL to marry her if she is to remain with him as caregiver. FIL shared this with DH.
He is legally blind and dependent on others to leave his home. He adamantly does NOT want to leave his home to live any other place.
DH contacted high school atty friend, after FIL agreed (FIL and his gf share same atty). If they marry, according to MA law, gf/wife would receive a minimum of 1/3 of estate. THAT is not a worry; they have been together about ten years. It is her daughter that concerns us. The daughter has called DH twice in the last two weeks, telling DH that her mom will not be back as a caregiver. GF is back, as of today, and told MA Elder care rep that FIL's family is only after his money.
If you have read thru this dirty laundry, how would you proceed, if at all? It is such a quandary. DH and i are taking off for MA Thursday AM, but will most likely take FIL out for breakfast, and whatever he agrees to. We are worried, but FIL is a tough, tough, tough WWII veteran, convinced everybody is out to get his $$. We cannot say much if he is not asking for advice, and he never does.
Any advice? Retirement is not all fun & games.
FIL is 90 in MA. GF/caregiver is 70. She is with him maybe 80% of time, has her own apartment.
Her daughter (mid-40's) and gf/caregiver took FIL out to eat today. Daughter wants to buy FIL's house and he said no; it is meant for his son (my DH). Truthfully, we would love to live there, but taxes are $7000/yr and would be a stretch for us.
So, gf is pressuring FIL to marry her if she is to remain with him as caregiver. FIL shared this with DH.
He is legally blind and dependent on others to leave his home. He adamantly does NOT want to leave his home to live any other place.
DH contacted high school atty friend, after FIL agreed (FIL and his gf share same atty). If they marry, according to MA law, gf/wife would receive a minimum of 1/3 of estate. THAT is not a worry; they have been together about ten years. It is her daughter that concerns us. The daughter has called DH twice in the last two weeks, telling DH that her mom will not be back as a caregiver. GF is back, as of today, and told MA Elder care rep that FIL's family is only after his money.
If you have read thru this dirty laundry, how would you proceed, if at all? It is such a quandary. DH and i are taking off for MA Thursday AM, but will most likely take FIL out for breakfast, and whatever he agrees to. We are worried, but FIL is a tough, tough, tough WWII veteran, convinced everybody is out to get his $$. We cannot say much if he is not asking for advice, and he never does.
Any advice? Retirement is not all fun & games.