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The interplay of ''tradition'' can cause a lot of amusing stories.................
......So, on the day of the wedding he goes to the hotel to pick up his bride and knocks on the door. *She asks with the door closed ''Who is it''. *My friend getting annoyed with all this ''tradition stuff'' says,''Who do you think it is'' *This went on for a bit until he finally said, ''It's me XXX. *Were you expecting someone else'' *I had to work hard to keep from bursting out in laughter.
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Hyper, I think you missed out the best bit which is the ''Show of Love'' before the parents and family let her leave the house.''If you love me then you will eat this one hundred year old egg........with chilli sauce........If you love me you will eat this stinky tofu with treacle sauce.......If you love me you will stand on your head........If you love me you will have written a love poem to read to me in front of everyone......etc etc''
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Another wedding tradition (Chinese but also Japanese) is that everybody, I mean everybody, comes up to the head table and pours the couple a drink. *They then toast. *The problem is that you'd be incredibly hammered if you drank every toast so there's a bucket under the head table to pour the drinks away.
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Chinese tradition also is for the Bride and Groom just to take the smallest sip, barely wet their lips and then pass the remainder of the drink to the Best Man, so that it is he who gets hammered on the Bride and Groom's behalf!!!
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Hey, Jane, I didn't realize your groom-to-be was a gui-lau (sp?). *
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Gwei-lo (male), Gwei-por (female)
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Rest assure that even though my fiance is white, he is not paying for the wedding himself. We (him and I) are paying for it. At first we weren't even going to buy a diamond ring (all I want is a nice, simple white gold wedding band) but my mom gave me one of her diamonds....(I don't even wear it for fear of losing it)
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Support your plan, Jane, my wife and I paid entirely for our own wedding so as to avoid any possible interference or bickering over the ''where, what, how and how much''. Worked perfectly for us, good luck to you!
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But that said I know lots of women who loves jewellery so I can't give you any words of comfort). Good luck to all the men out there - not sure how you can get out of this one.
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There is no way out of this! No woman who truly desires a diamond ring, whatever the reason or motivation, will ever EVER be truly happy without one. I say that after trying, failing and ultimately buying some (1.5 carat highest grade solitaire on a platinum band plus 2 earrings, each with ten 0.5 carat diamonds in a twist) for the big event. To be fair though, she wears the rings every single day.
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....the bride's parents also insisted a certain sum of dowry to be given to them. They said it's tradition. My parents were adamant and said ''We are not going to give any dowry and if we are to pay for the whole thing, then we are going to choose a cheaper hall''.
Jane
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After a bit of hard bargaining, I eventually paid a dowry of one small gold coin, a bag of gold coin chocolates, a bottle of brandy, a kilo of ''Dragon's Eyes'' and a kilo of Abalone. I think they just wanted her off their hands, but I still think I overpaid.....hahahahahahaha!!!!!!!!
Aside from air fares for certain relatives, which we paid for, and some hotel costs, the most expensive elements were my wife's 5 different dresses for the day.
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$85/plate!!!!!!!! *eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeek. *
Please let me have boys.... PLEASE!!!!!
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Try US$110 for a 15 course banquet when 1 quarter of the folks leave after the Shark's Fin Soup, now that is painful!!!
Along with all the seemingly silly and funny traditions that persist, at least the ''Lai-See'' is still alive and well.
Simon888