2HOTinPHX
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I would only suggest you make it clear to all parties before you pass (hopefully many, many years from now) of your wishes.
We recently spoke to a person who's spouse made a change to their will taking out the children from a previous marriage and didn't tell anyone but the spouse. Made the spouse promise not to tell anyone till their passing to avoid confrontation. Well the children blamed the surviving spouse for the change and even went to court over the will. They had a good relationship before but are no longer speaking.
It is yours to give as you please and nobody should feel entitled to anything. Unfortunately some do feel that way... So I think it may be wise to let them know your wishes now to minimize the potential for conflicts after you are gone.
Hope you find a solution you are happy with. Sorry to hear about your family issues. I think a lot more of us have them then we let on.
I think it was Dave Ramsey who said every family tree has at least one nut on it. If you don't know who it is.. it's probably you.. LOL. My family tree is loaded with them.. [emoji1645]
We recently spoke to a person who's spouse made a change to their will taking out the children from a previous marriage and didn't tell anyone but the spouse. Made the spouse promise not to tell anyone till their passing to avoid confrontation. Well the children blamed the surviving spouse for the change and even went to court over the will. They had a good relationship before but are no longer speaking.
It is yours to give as you please and nobody should feel entitled to anything. Unfortunately some do feel that way... So I think it may be wise to let them know your wishes now to minimize the potential for conflicts after you are gone.
Hope you find a solution you are happy with. Sorry to hear about your family issues. I think a lot more of us have them then we let on.
I think it was Dave Ramsey who said every family tree has at least one nut on it. If you don't know who it is.. it's probably you.. LOL. My family tree is loaded with them.. [emoji1645]
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