Bestwifeever
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If only all women were as cool as the ones on the board...
Hey, who are you calling cold? I resemble that remark.
If only all women were as cool as the ones on the board...
Ah, flattery...If only all women were as cool as the ones on the board...
A lot of insight here I think. I knew a young guy years ago who was a logger (choker setter). He got an ankle injury that meant that he could no longer hop up and down and from tree to tree and he was devastated. In the end it turned out well for him- he went to university on his Viet-Nam vet benefits, became a mathematician and got a job with a defense firm.My understanding was that men defined themselves mainly by what they did -- either with their hands or keeping score with $$. Take that away (economic downturn, being fired, becoming disabled, or getting old, etc.) and there wasn't much left.
Some are, one would imagine. As for the pressures society puts on men, if you have never been the sole breadwinner for a family, I can't explain the sense of urgency that stays just below the surface until you lose your livelihood, upon which time it is full-blown panic or nearly so.
If only all women were as cool as the ones on the board...
Brewer was referring to frigid women in his post above......
Can someone explain to me why so many men (and it's never the women) commit suicide when their company is going down?
What I remember most is what he told me about daycare, the PTA and men's restrooms. Men are almost always treated as pariahs in these organizations. It doesn't matter if you have your kids with you, they still tend to look at you funny and see you as some sort of weirdo child-molester type if you are nurturing and affectionate toward kids.
Back to original question, I imagine that there is something in common with the fact that most murderers are men. Aggression is part of the package.
Are we related?I have seen some very good points made by our male contributors which make a lot of sense. I do believe there are different expectations for males and females, especially when it comes to supporting your family. I can see where a man would be made to feel like a failure if he lost his job whereas for a female many people would probably blather about it being an opportunity for her to stay home with her family.
However, I have to add that we are not all awful creatures. My husband is the most important person in my life and if he were to lose his job tomorrow or something happened to him healthwise it would not change the way I feel about him. For me it is not about the money, because with the money but no DH I would feel like I had lost my future. I do know the type of women you are referring to as I see them every day on a women's message board I am a member of. The selfishness of some of these creatures blows my mind, but it does give me a reminder of what I never want to be.
Are we related?
Excellent post, excellent.
I think the guys here who have not been burnt, and maybe even some that have, realize that all women are not avaricious golddiggers. Sadly, so many of our gender are. Case by case.
Testosterone clouds judgement, sometimes leading to self-destructive behaviour. Ask Uncle Mick.
My guess would be for love...or someone to help him find his socks.....I am unable to understand why a middle aged man would want to get married.
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My guess would be for love...or someone to help him find his socks.....
Just a few days ago a friend (friend only) told me that she hasn't slept with her husband for 5 years. She no longer works either- she cooks and cleans well, but that is her contribution. So I asked how he felt about all this. He doesn't like it, she said. Aren't you afraid that he will leave you I said. No, he couldn't afford to give up half of his pension! And they both made their first marriage at age 40, and were in love as most people are when they get married.
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No argument here....However, the social and legal structure of our current society make it risky to find out how it might go.
...I think the average marriage lasts longer than 7 years- how many of us have known our spouse-to-be longer than that?
...Aren't you afraid that he will leave you I said. No, he couldn't afford to give up half of his pension!...So a small part of the problem is true gold-diggers, and a larger part just that you really have little predictability... and you still have to keep paying.
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Get a goldfish.
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Part of the problem I believe is we all get too complacent. We have been married nearly 16 years and I would be a liar if I said we have never had rough patches. However, those rough patches have been due to complacency. I look at myself and am disappointed at what I have let myself become, what has become of the woman that my spouse married? It's too easy to believe that this is what middle age looks like. As to regards the sex, if we spent 5% of the time that we waste watching TV or on the computer towards wooing our other half we would all be a lot happier. The problem is during the courtship stage most of us shag ourselves stupid. However, once the responsibility of being an adult sets in, we let the mundaneness of life take over and forget who we were.
I'm sad for the woman that you mention Ha, because you know what - she is cheating herself out of what her life could be. Sad to think that someone is willing to go through the motions of living for the sake of a few quick bucks rather than putting herself out there and living a truly fulfilled life.
Originally Posted by haha
Just a few days ago a friend (friend only) told me that she hasn't slept with her husband for 5 years. She no longer works either- she cooks and cleans well, but that is her contribution. So I asked how he felt about all this. He doesn't like it, she said. Aren't you afraid that he will leave you I said. No, he couldn't afford to give up half of his pension! And they both made their first marriage at age 40, and were in love as most people are when they get married.
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