Recent content by flyaway

Thank you courtjustshan. I'm glad you affirmed that what I am talking about is very real, not just my imagination or paranoia. I left a job a year ago, where I had been for 11 years, because of this. In that case, it was my manager who was out to get me. I complained to HR many times, and I...

"when Jim is acting towards you in a way that you feel is disrespectful, call him out on it. Unless you do, he will keep on doing it. If he still persists after you let him know, then it is time to speak with a manager about those documented incidents." I don't want to turn this into a...

Saying I must have low self esteem because "I" wasn't capitalized somewhere in my post.

He didn't give me assignments, just specified how certain things should be done. He decided on a library we would use, but that was approved by the lead developer. I didn't mind. There were times when Jim acted very forceful about how to do things. But other times, he leaves me alone or is...

I do not want to be a freelancer until I have a base income of at least $20k or $30k. That would pay for basic expenses, so I wouldn't have to worry about constantly having enough work (did that, no desire to do it again).

Yes, that is exactly what I meant. Low profile, avoid conflict, do my work, ignore Jim as much as possible. And maybe after this project is done I won't have to work with him anymore. I have already learned never to ask his advice. He interprets that as a helpless old lady begging for help.

You thought I had a self esteem problem because an "I" wasn't capitalized! What kind of woman you are has nothing to do with me. Don't expect everyone to be just like you.

This is getting ridiculous.

That is my point, and why I want to retire. I was able to ignore Jim until recently when we are working on projects that have to be coordinated. There is absolutely no way I can ignore him now.

Ok, well I had considered writing an email to the director and/or manager. I thought I would ask them if I am supposed to be reporting to Jim now. It's possible they have made him my supervisor and forgot to tell me. Jim acts like he is my boss. But even worse, he tries to micro-manage me. I...

It's hard to know, and the work is hard to measure. I do think that Jim is smart and knows what he's doing. But I also think he is over-confident and an arrogant BS-er. He talks loud and fast so everyone thinks he must be right. But very often what he says makes no sense at all. The managers...

I want to either change careers or be self-employed. I had some teaching experience and I might try to get part-time teaching jobs. Or get contract programming work. Either way, my income would be less. I don't want any more pressure and stress, so the only way I can get a high income is with a...

Age discrimination can be very bad in the field I have been working in. I experienced it in my previous job, and really can't go through it again. But it isn't something you can fix or do anything about. There are lots of young guys who are extremely arrogant and over-confident. But they are...

HI, I am 61 years old now, and I want to retire or semi-retire in one year, when I can collect early SS. I have been working in the website programming field for about 18 years, and have been at my current job a little over one year. I still like the work, but the field seems to be...