Recent content by workburnout

Honestly I can see your point of view as well as the view of others. I am not saying one is 100% right or wrong because life is not so black and white sometimes. The other thing which Kristi said is she did not ask if he had an open marriage, until after the deed was done. She said she did not...

That makes sense. He told her he does not want anyone to find out and wants to stay married. On the surface (to most people who don't know him) he has the perfect family - adorable kids, good job, not wealthy, but does pretty well. I would never tell anyone. I don't count this forum as the...

Thank you. She helped me with a lot of serious issues I had unrelated to all this when we were a lot younger. This is the only thing she's ever done wrong of this magnitude in life. So I wanted to help her when she asked. I can't. Nothing I can do to help. We all love each other as friends...

The whole point was they were friends 20 yrs before any fling happened. They had a lot of unique friend/group experience (nothing to do with sex). So what I'm getting here from most posters is that it is impossible for them to be friends after the fling. If they had not had it, they'd still be...

Kristi does go online a lot. However she has stopped going on FB for now.

The wife does not go online. That is who I was referring to. Kristi does go online.

I would disagree that it's "delight" as you mentioned, because what I'm feeling is stress about it, as I was with the different situation with my niece at the time I posted -that has all been resolved now, in part thanks to advice I got here. I tend to sometimes stress about things too much...

Yes exactly, I am conflicted on this. I go back and forth. But now I will stay out of it and tell her I can't give her an opinion, it's up to her what to do.

It's the first place I post on a forum like this if I want advice, if I can't tell anyone in "real life" so to speak. I have friends I speak to in real life but I did not want to get them involved in this not even by telling them. Even if she had not said keep it a secret, I still would not...

Thanks for your advice. I will tell her I don't want to be involved and to leave me out of it. To be totally honest I feel sorry for them both and I am wondering what will happen. But it was their choice. I will keep my distance from them. After reading the posts on here it has made me...

Not that it matters, but I changed a few minor details of the story on here, so it would not be easily identifiable if someone I knew were to happen to read it. That's unlikely but I get that it could happen.

I did promise her I would not tell anyone, hence my post here. It is good to get all the great feedback from this forum, and I appreciate everyone's replies, since I can't ask any of my friends.

LOL

She could be....never know. Although, chances are slim to none. She hates going online, hates computers. He goes online some but not a lot.

So, when she told me, I had no way of knowing - not sure how that makes me guilty of drama. Not sure how my helping my niece is a bad thing, or how it relates in any way to this post.....I am pretty confused as to why it would matter as my niece has nothing to do with any of my old friends and...