samsterdog
Dryer sheet wannabe
I try similar keys, and they help, but there is still resentment.DW is actually 7 months older than I, and is still happily w*rking. I've been ER'd for 4 1/2 years. She was - and is - fully supportive of my ER. The keys to our successful arrangement.
A close friend of mine retired over his wife's objections,and it hadn't gone well. Make sure you and your DW are in agreement.
- Notwithstanding her expressed support, for the 6 months or so prior to my ER I brought up the topic numerous times. Being supportive in the abstract might be one thing, but I wanted to be sure she would be in the real world.
- Yes, I keep the house neat and duly fulfill any honey-do chores she assigns (they are never too many, or onerous).
- If she asks I will tell her what I did that day (i.e., my various recreational pursuits). If something special happened, I will tell her. But otherwise I don't go out of my way to discuss my life of leisure. She knows what I am doing most days, and like I said she is supportive. But still, I don't want to belabor the I'm-not/you-are working thing,
I picked up a part-time j*b two evenings a week which helps by showing my attempt, and even more importantly, getting me out of the house at least those two evenings thereby allowing "her" time.
Regardless, I'm glad that I pulled the trigger. My stress level is virtually non-existent (besides the resentment ), I've lost 10 pounds (not that I really needed to) and gotten into better shape.
While I believe we both could ER with a somewhat reduction in our lifestyle, having DW work provides enough to cover all annual expenses as well as health insurance coverage. I'm appreciative of her sacrifice.
Good luck!