thebeachlife
Confused about dryer sheets
- Joined
- Jul 28, 2014
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- 6
Hello all! After two years lurking, reading, learning (and often cheering from behind my screen) I'm taking the plunge to introduce myself. I feel so blessed to have found a community of like-minded people.
I am in my early 40s with a DH and 6-year-old DS. While my wonderful DH and I spent many hard-driving DINK years hitting goals (often to the exclusion of fun and enjoying life), we decided to make a drastic change when DS was born. My DH become the SAHD and likely will remain RE. I love having him home. He takes so much off my plate, that I credit the change with having significantly increased our household income even without the second salary.
We set the goal to join the two comma club by our 40th and made it! We are committed to keeping our DS in one school district through HS graduation, though on bad work days I do fantasize we chuck it all, move to a low cost area and live on 3.5% WR. Then I think about health insurance, college costs, our love of travel and hope to be able to help our elderly parents and get back to work!
New Jersey has many pluses, but the cost of living and taxes here are huge negatives. We think we may sell the house then move when our DS is launched, but that makes figuring out "the number" difficult as we have no idea what the retirement budget needs to be. I'd love any advice on the ever-changing number, why does it seem to grow and grow the older we get, and what some of you did to combat that sense that you can keep increasing it forever.
Thank you ER community. You do so much more good than you can ever know.
I am in my early 40s with a DH and 6-year-old DS. While my wonderful DH and I spent many hard-driving DINK years hitting goals (often to the exclusion of fun and enjoying life), we decided to make a drastic change when DS was born. My DH become the SAHD and likely will remain RE. I love having him home. He takes so much off my plate, that I credit the change with having significantly increased our household income even without the second salary.
We set the goal to join the two comma club by our 40th and made it! We are committed to keeping our DS in one school district through HS graduation, though on bad work days I do fantasize we chuck it all, move to a low cost area and live on 3.5% WR. Then I think about health insurance, college costs, our love of travel and hope to be able to help our elderly parents and get back to work!
New Jersey has many pluses, but the cost of living and taxes here are huge negatives. We think we may sell the house then move when our DS is launched, but that makes figuring out "the number" difficult as we have no idea what the retirement budget needs to be. I'd love any advice on the ever-changing number, why does it seem to grow and grow the older we get, and what some of you did to combat that sense that you can keep increasing it forever.
Thank you ER community. You do so much more good than you can ever know.