ER with a working wife?

[MRGALT2U]

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Originally Posted by Zipper You need to make sure you have a good breakfast prepared for her in the morning, and a lunch made if she requires it. A tasty nutritious home cooked supper will increase your culinary skills and show you really care. Ordering take-out is a no-no, or even going out for dinner more than a couple of times a week isn't recommended.

Okay, but why is that? I enjoy my own cooking, but doubt that others would. Sooooooooooooo, if I decide to order "take out"
to spare DW (and me), what is the problem? BTW, agree it
is a "no-no" since I've tried it many times.

JG

[MRGALT2U]

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Originally Posted by brewer12345 I would discuss it with your wife and try to craft a win-win outcome.* .*

Doubtful. Been married twice and had a lot of female
"friends". "win-win" outcomes have eluded me for over 6
decades.

JG

[brewer12345]

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Originally Posted by MRGALT2U Doubtful.* Been married twice and had a lot of female "friends".* "win-win" outcomes have eluded me for over 6 decades. JG

That's sad or I am extremely lucky.* Win-win outcomes seem to pop up pretty much on a daily basis for DW and I.

Maybe us liberals just have an easier time of it...

[MRGALT2U]

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Originally Posted by brewer12345 That's sad or I am extremely lucky.* Win-win outcomes seem to pop up pretty much on a daily basis for DW and I. Maybe us liberals just have an easier time of it...

Could be.

JG

[Honkie]

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Originally Posted by MRGALT2U I left her a note saying I was "gone to Texas" and was not sure exactly when I would return.*

This is the true story of a family friend in the old country, who had a habit of going "walkabout" for days at a time. He had been itching and griping about "getting out for few days" and so when he didn't appear for a few days his partner of 20 years didn't really think much about it - she was used to him having his little adventures, he could look after himself and he always showed up again eventually. Anyhow, the days turned into a week and the week turned into a month. She then made a report to the police that he was missing. Eight weeks later she got a phone call telling her that he was safe and well and staying in East London. Well, his partner tells him that 8 weeks is enough and to get on the next Inter-City train and head back home. What she didn't realise was that that he wasn't in the East London 200 miles to the south of her in the UK, but in the East London overlooking the Indian Ocean in South Africa. He had wandered, overland, all the way to Cape Town and then round the coast of South Africa toward Durban!!!!!!

Happy ending - they reunited a couple of weeks later when partner flew to Cape Town. She then returned home, sold up the business and eveything else they had and flew back, never to return. They now run a small guest house in the Stellenbosch (sp?) wine region outside Cape Town. Never been happier. The interesting part is that he was 50 and she was over 45 when this happened a few years ago. Never too late for some types of people.

Cheers
Honkie

[dog_leg]

I believe I have a winning chance with DW working,* in more ways than financial. Otherwise, I would not have move beyond the dreaming stage. ER trigger can always be delayed but a divorce will sink the ship. Paddling a life boat for survival is not my idea of retirement living.

Great thought evoking responses from all, especially the working spouses that are living the life.
Men tend to think in absolute terms, like digital mode.
Such as "My way and I can't change" or "I made X time more money so no problem".
Women more spectral, more analog.
They both have advantages and disadvantages.

The take away for me, is to shore up effort to please DW.
So she feel important while toiling away at salt mine.
There will be enough time to play and do the house chores.
Just don't go overboard to the point of appearing needy.

D_L

[Ginger]

DH retired for almost two months. I am still working full-time. So far, it has made life easier. DH barbecues and keeps the house in semi-order. I still do the major housecleaning though. Yard work is all completed before the weekend, cars washed, errands are getting done faster. I came home tired one night, and he stated he was tired too! (I told DH "not to go down that path." I am glad that he is able to exercise more, read more books, meet a friend for breakfast, and not have all the stress that he was under during his working years. The weekends are more enjoyable now too since we can do and plan more fun events.

[BUM]

D_L welcome aboard!

DW and I have been enjoying ER now for almost 1 yr! No real problems. Plenty of imagined ones. She sometimes talks about going back to work. Soon she realizes that we couldnt do half the things we enjoy doing if she worked.

Having said that, I still feel that having a happily working spouse during ER, is a high place to be in life...


BUM