Interesting reading the comments here. OP - you are not alone, there are some of us lurking in the shadows that have the same "rich people" problems, but don't always respond with their specifics in the fear of being called out/suggesting they are being "punked"... perhaps those comments are tongue and cheek
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I am in your boat, but 8 yrs younger and about 18 months from launching if I don't chicken out. Regardless of asset balances, I believe the same concerns often exist for someone with $8M vs $1M. I would suggest that those who have higher balances created through their business/income/investments (as opposed to a big inheritance/winning the lotto) have probably settled into a higher spend rate and gotten used to some of the finer things in life along the way. Like OP, I have a DW who indulges in the goodies a good bit more than me, but I would be lying if I said the "creep" has not affected all of us. I am targeting a $300K or slightly higher taxable RE spend as well, but it is not based on "needs", but "wants". I think the tension is the same and it all comes back to you and DW doing personal and joint assessments of what is most important to you (I am working hard on this with my DW). The hardest thing sometimes is going backwards on some of the goodies when you have been accustomed to them for a while (i.e. Caymus to Two Buck Chuck... that's a tough one!
). None the less, I am working hard on this exercise. In an effort to appease my propensity to over analyze everything, I have developed 3 RE budgets... 1) Preferred budget with all the planned goodies ($300K budget), 2) Markets are down/concerns about where economy/investments are headed budget... trip to Europe becomes trip to FL, and 3) SHTF/it's 2008 all over again budget... looks like pizza again tonight! These are the Jedi mind tricks I need to play on myself to be comfortable in launching as soon as I reign in DW
Congrats on your success!