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UserRequested · 04-10-2013, 04:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Letj

I am a woman too and had the same perspective.

I'm a man in touch with his feminine side, and I say its none of our business what she decides to who with her relationship. There is no right or wrong answer. So I disagree with all the "well intentioned" strong advice one way or the other, especially the ones that come from individuals with a lot of "baggage".

REWahoo · 04-10-2013, 05:25 PM

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Originally Posted by jags

I'm a man in touch with his feminine side, and I say its none of our business what she decides to who with her relationship.

While that may be true, the OP posted her situation here for input. You've shared your advice and repeatedly made it clear you don't agree with some of the advice she's getting. Fine, we get it.

That said, it is poor form to take shots at those who have opinions you don't support. Please give it a rest.

UserRequested · 04-10-2013, 06:18 PM

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Originally Posted by REWahoo

While that may be true, the OP posted her situation here for input. You've shared your advice and repeatedly made it clear you don't agree with some of the advice she's getting. Fine, we get it.

That said, it is poor form to take shots at those who have opinions you don't support. Please give it a rest.

Merely stating my view. Wasn't taking shots anyone in particular, unlike your post which is clearly a personal attack

REWahoo · 04-10-2013, 07:58 PM

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Originally Posted by jags

...unlike your post which is clearly a personal attack

I'm confident the mods will step in if they view my post to be a violation of the forum's rules.

**MichaelB** · 04-10-2013, 08:03 PM

Just like when my family gets together, most of us here can figure out for ourselves what advice is helpful what is not, no need for public votes or throwing cow pies. Why don't we stick to either trying to help Sassy or just sitting back to watch the show.

UserRequested · 04-10-2013, 08:22 PM

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Originally Posted by MichaelB

Just like when my family gets together, most of us here can figure out for ourselves what advice is helpful what is not, no need for public votes or throwing cow pies. Why don't we stick to either trying to help Sassy or just sitting back to watch the show.

Thanks Mr Bolton

That's good advice. Your family sounds a lot like mine. Most times members bite their tongues and let comments pass through to the keeper (a cricket analogy). Sometimes, there's fireworks and it ain't always pretty

aida2003 · 04-11-2013, 06:02 AM

Sassy,

I forgot couple more things, but you probably know yourself.
Since you're the one controlling retirement planning, I'd also ask for your husband's 401k access to review AA in it and hopefully he's not 100% invested in his company's stock. That's also a form of gambling and it has ended quite badly for many folks.

I don't remember how many years you've been married. If it's 10 or more years, and if the SS stays around you'll be able to claim on his working record. It sounded that your "D"H (quote marks, because he's not 'dear' right now) earns good income, so it's good for you too.

FinanceDude · 04-11-2013, 08:22 AM

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Originally Posted by REWahoo

I'm confident the mods will step in if they view my post to be a violation of the forum's rules.

Doubtful, since you are a moderator emeritus.........

FinanceDude · 04-11-2013, 08:23 AM

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Originally Posted by jags

Merely stating my view. Wasn't taking shots anyone in particular, unlike your post which is clearly a personal attack

He did say "please".........

FinanceDude · 04-11-2013, 08:24 AM

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Originally Posted by jags

So I disagree with all the "well intentioned" strong advice one way or the other, especially the ones that come from individuals with a lot of "baggage".

I resemble that remark.........

Sassy · 04-11-2013, 01:50 PM

I'm getting quite the chuckle at the lively debate going on here on whether or not I should kick Mr. Sassy to the curb. It's getting hashed out on this forum more than it is in my own house. Let's just say I kind of like him sleeping with one eye open....

Life insurance needs are covered.

Yes, he makes a good income, so that helps. And we know how to LBOM, which is good, considering we're in UMM----Ultra Miser Mode.

Will continue to max out 401K (which I have access to), IRAs, and contribute monthly net savings to the after-tax account. Getting from Point A to B, what I have to work with each month v. what I need in that account, is incredibly intimidating and seems unreachable. There's just such a massive gap right now that it seems nearly impossible.

And, yes, there are 100 million scenarios that could be much worse. Yesterday I went to the funeral of a childhood friend. She had been clean of breast cancer for 7 years, it suddenly came raging back, and in mid-February she was diagnosed with brain tumors. Six weeks later she was gone at the age of 42. Her goals where simple: live to see her son's bday in May and live until the end of the school year. It is so incredibly sad and I am feeling her loss today and feeling for her husband and young family she left behind. So, yes, this situation of mine and life is certainly in perspective here.

UserRequested · 04-11-2013, 03:31 PM

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Originally Posted by FinanceDude

He did say "please".........

Lol he did too. In mod speak "my bad"

FinanceDude · 04-12-2013, 10:46 AM

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Originally Posted by Sassy

Getting from Point A to B, what I have to work with each month v. what I need in that account, is incredibly intimidating and seems unreachable. There's just such a massive gap right now that it seems nearly impossible.

What are your goals, $1m, $2m, $3m? You can make any or all of those if you choose...UMM (ultra miser mode) will help...........