Wishing you the best with your situation. You are certainly handling it well and planning for all options. Good luck.
If you decide to go the path of being her primary caretaker you might look into whether you can receive payment from the state for this role. My close friend took care of his mom for years until she passed. He got certified as some kind of caregiver and was paid around $800 a month via a state agency to provide her primary care. It took a lot of work (training, paperwork, etc) to get it done but it helped him out financially a lot during those years. She didn't suffer from dementia which made it easier.
Incidentally, he is now trying to re-enter the workforce at 60 and finding it very challenging.
Good luck to you sir!
If you decide to go the path of being her primary caretaker you might look into whether you can receive payment from the state for this role. My close friend took care of his mom for years until she passed. He got certified as some kind of caregiver and was paid around $800 a month via a state agency to provide her primary care. It took a lot of work (training, paperwork, etc) to get it done but it helped him out financially a lot during those years. She didn't suffer from dementia which made it easier.
Incidentally, he is now trying to re-enter the workforce at 60 and finding it very challenging.
Good luck to you sir!