Welcome to the board, Packman.
I'm financially savy and I believe I am now FI.
You "believe" you're FI? Have you taken any action to verify that, like running your assets & expenses through FIRECalc or another calculator?
So why am I having such a hard time making that final decision?? I'm very independant, but what if I am bored? Will it work for me to RE and for my DW to keep working (she wants me to RE). If I decide to get back in the workforce, I will likely make less than 50% of what I earn today. What's the secret to the big decision and being happy about it?
The secret is to have a spouse who supports your goal of being responsible for your own entertainment.
Usually we see the other problem, where one person wants to ER and their spouse doesn't think it'll work, or doesn't want to cut back on [-]the gravy train[/-] lifestyle.
If you're not going to ER then you have essentially three choices:
- continue working at your current job until something happens to change your employment (like a health crisis or a forced retirement).
- get a different job (including reduced hours at your current employer).
- take a sabbatical of at least six weeks.
The first choice leaves the decision up to anybody but you.
The second enables you to find a job you love. But if you've been planning to ER for the last three decades then you'd hope that would've happened by now. I should point out that if you take this choice then you don't care what percentage of your former income you could earn. If you're financially independent then you can work because it's fulfilling, not remunerative.
The third choice gives you a chance to practice being ER'd. Don't try to remodel the house or train for a triathlon or write the Great American Novel. Instead just chill for a couple weeks-- take lots of naps & long walks. When you're feeling human again then start thinking & discussing with your spouse how you'd like to design your new life. As a kid you probably never had any trouble being busy from sunrise to sunset, so seek out those old interests and try some new ones. Read Ernie Zelinski's "How to Retire Happy, Wild, & Free" and brainstorm his "Get-A-Life Tree". When you return to work after your sabbatical, it's quite possible that you'll have lost all tolerance for the workplace and would rather be in charge of your own life & time.
"But what will I DO all day?!?" is one of the top three concerns of every ER. After ER they all wonder what the heck they were worrying about.