Looking at a recent thread where most of us told our age, it looks as if the great majority of members are under the age of 70.
I think it might be an interesting experiment for those who are older, to share some of the things that have changed their perception from what they expected years earlier. Generalities... no specific age, and definitely no hard and fast positions. In other words, it's not a "drink/no-drink"... a "travel/no travel" ... "Eating out/eat at home" "shopping/no shopping" , "become solitary/social animal", "either/or" type of thing, but rather ways that life in general has changed.
Things like... "how time spent in investments and accounting" has changed.
No wrongs or rights... more like, "I thought I'd spend more time traveling" or,"I'm buying more ready made meals, than spending time like I used to... making meals from scratch."
Go anywhere that suits you... the more the merrier. I'll start our with some of the changes that have happened in our lives in the past 10+ years.
Driving. We were travelers... local travelers... within a four state range. Big change. From perhaps age 72, when our auto travel averaged 15,000 to 20,000m mi./yr years, we're now at less than 1500.
Fixing up, enhancing our home... (a hardware store of tools) now down to letting it go if it's still safe. When we move to the estates in our CCRC, we'll spend $15,000 to to a full makeover. The few cracks, recarpeting and paint jobs can wait.
Entertaining at home. The biggest thing. From being a social center as late as 2010, we no longer entertain, except for our kids. Part of this difference is due to the availability of social rooms and functions in the buildings of our
retirement campus.
Meals and mealtimes... mostly recently since turning 80... no schedules. More than half the time, jeanie and I don't eat meals together. We've become more attuned to what we like best. Part of this, for me, is the loss of taste and smell, that used to be paramount in making meals. Now, not so important.... willing to make a meal out of oyster or shrimp, or ramen soup.
Sunshine...
yeah... from a time when both of us lived 80% of our waking hours outside. Now just a stray half our on the deck, listening to radio.
Hobbies... except for electronics, almost all of a hundred different hobbies are now just a peasant memory. While I love listening to Classical and Country Western music, I no longer play the instruments that were always a joy. Guitar, Uke and "fingered" instruments are no longer possible because of hand polyneuropathy. That one is really sad.
Shopping...for jeanie, two days out by herself each week. For me... quarterly, mostly to pick up 100 pounds of bird seed.
Our neighbors have housekeepers come in once a week... The big change for us, was last year, when we had our carpets cleaned by a local firm. First time since we were married.
Volunteering is on a day to day basis, where interest is strong... not because of social responsibility.
The biggest change, especially in the past three or four years, is peace of mind. Heck, no... not rich, but that little back of the mind guy that used to say..."Can you afford it?"... has gone on a long vacation.
Oops... an even bigger change... is a daily thankfulness for making it this far... relatively good health... and my jeanie, who I love more and more every day.