I figure as a total extrovert (according to any personality assessment test I've taken) that one of "us" should put some input in on this subject. When I was working--and I admit I have definite workaholic tendencies (to put it mildly)--I was managing and selling all day long. By the time I got home, it really almost irritated me to have to talk much or even make any decisions I would be so wrung out. So, even extroverts burn out on being with people.
So, if I were to have a beau again and I was put in a position of living with him I'd want each of us to have our own bedroom, bathroom, tv and preferably own room to relax in. Frankly, I could go a duplex easily.
I've had situations where the guy wanted to be with me ALL the time when not working and that just does not work for me.
I have other friends I'd like to be with without him at times. Let him get his own friends to spend time with, also. To me, it keeps it more exciting than being together-together-together. I never have understood these couples that do everything together. Guess it's just not my style. Too independent?
And being with the same person all the time just..well, bores me quickly. I like to hear input and ideas from many others. And I like male, as well as female, friends to spend time with sans jealousy from a mate, and, since I'm totally faithful, I resent the jealousy I've gotten from my -ex and old beaus over this, too.
W2R, I get your point totally, really. Then again, I had a beau once that wanted us to "you go your way, I'll go mine." What's the point of even being together if you don't spend "some" time with each other? There just has to be a balance, but this guy told me he didn't even eat dinner at home except for Sunday when he was married to his -ex long-suffering wife . What was he doing then? Hmmmmm...think I know....
I say: duplex. That would work perfectly for me or, as a second choice, each has their own section of a large home. But I understand where you're at, W2R.
What's good about a duplex is, if you were to break-up, one of you could sell your half and move on gracefully.