trumpeting_angel
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If your father had a urinary tract infection upon admission, his mental faculties were most likely compromised until that was treated. Unlike in younger and middle-aged people, UTIs in the elderly produce a dementia-like mental status, with great confusion.
He may not have been able at that point to be heard, and it’s possible that once his mind began to clear they already stopped listening.
But what a boondoggle! If he was compromised psychologically on admission, it seems it would be important to involve family members. And if not, what the hell kind of plan is withholding water and removing his IV?
When my sister died (at 47) I was irrationally angry about all sorts of things, like the way the flower arrangement for her coffin turned out, and neighbors stopping by with more food than I could possibly have stored in the fridge. It’s easy to get angry at an easy target at a time like this. I understand the responses here suggesting that the OP should focus on his good memories. But I agree with the OP. This was egregious.
Sometimes I think folks in that stage of life receive better care in tiny community hospitals, like one where I worked here in Vermont. 25 beds. A helipad ready to send a complex patient to Dartmouth Hitchcock. Do you go there for neurosurgery? No. But for an elderly person nearing the end...there IS supposed to be care in healthcare.
He may not have been able at that point to be heard, and it’s possible that once his mind began to clear they already stopped listening.
But what a boondoggle! If he was compromised psychologically on admission, it seems it would be important to involve family members. And if not, what the hell kind of plan is withholding water and removing his IV?
When my sister died (at 47) I was irrationally angry about all sorts of things, like the way the flower arrangement for her coffin turned out, and neighbors stopping by with more food than I could possibly have stored in the fridge. It’s easy to get angry at an easy target at a time like this. I understand the responses here suggesting that the OP should focus on his good memories. But I agree with the OP. This was egregious.
Sometimes I think folks in that stage of life receive better care in tiny community hospitals, like one where I worked here in Vermont. 25 beds. A helipad ready to send a complex patient to Dartmouth Hitchcock. Do you go there for neurosurgery? No. But for an elderly person nearing the end...there IS supposed to be care in healthcare.
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