My brother and I are in the early stages of taking my dad to court to get him declared incompetent.
Dad and I are in the same city although 25 miles apart.
My brother lives 1500 miles away.
Ideally my brother would be named guardian and we'd move dad into a facility within a mile of my brother (Dad used to live there for 15 years and lived in the area for over 45 years, so depending on his memory its not like moving him to Mars).
Primary drivers of moving dad are:
* facility costs are significantly (almost half) cheaper there for a very nice place (my MIL is already in the same facility)
* geographically separating dad from a home health aid that is exploiting him
* and lastly the small matter of Dad telling case workers he never wants to speak to me again. (Although he may turn against my brother too since my brother has to be part of the court proceedings).
* Dad has a wider circle of friends/family in the region that could visit.
As a backup plan to not being able to move Dad to my brothers, I would need to be the guardian.
Is there any complication to have two people named "co-guardians"?
ex. does it get in the way because some place will require signatures etc from BOTH?
Is it better to name one of us guardian and then go back to court to change guardians if we get dad moved?
I'll be googling (and I have hired an elder law atty), but there is nothing like first hand experience and this place is a little like Lake Wobegon "where everybody is above average"
Thanks for any insights.