Originally Posted by njonge01
Also, the house is in my name only but it goes to her in the event of my death, and so does adequate money to pay off the mortgage. I've considered directing it to my sister, with instructions to pay off the mortgage and allowing Tara to continue to live there, and it only goes to Tara when she gets her act together.
I agree with HaHa. Is your effort to control your SE beyond the grave motivated by love or what
? Whatever the case, you would be setting the tone for lots of discontent. Would you tell your SE about these plans or leave her to discover after your death? If you tell her, how do you think she would react?