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Old 04-10-2008, 06:44 PM   #1
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Enough With Bad Relationships And Cohabitating-Hunting Lawyers

There are good ones out there. The "We've been together since they traded in the old brontosaur for a schoolbus" or "We fell in love on the lake 20 years ago and she still holds my bait and tackle" or "We've still gert thit shotgun ur ded wurs holdin' ad da weddin'" couple.

How did you meet? Eyes crossed in a crowded room, bumped heads while trying to pick up the papers she dropped on accident, kissed her upside down in the rain in a silly costume? How are you keeping the romance alive, or are you comfortable and happy, or can you do both?

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Old 04-10-2008, 07:10 PM   #2
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How are you keeping the romance alive? kissed her upside down in the rain in a silly costume?
You could probably skip the rain and silly costume, but those upside-down kisses can be highly appreciated.


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Old 04-10-2008, 07:14 PM   #3
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A halloween party at a Ramada Inn in New Orleans. The plain clothes detectives came in and put a gun to my head and escorted me outside.

After getting frisked and restraining a slightly tipsy young lady who loudly proclaimed "you can't treat people like that." Of course they can.

Blossomed into one night stand that lasted 29 years until she passed away too early.

Heh heh heh - long story but they were looking for a 6 foot, 26 yr old blond guy waving a gun. I was flattered being in my 30's and more dirty than blond.

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Old 04-10-2008, 07:54 PM   #4
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Blossomed into one night stand that lasted 29 years until she passed away too early.

All I can say is that I'm so sorry for your loss !
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Old 04-10-2008, 08:04 PM   #5
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High school sweethearts / silly costumes...

DW and I met as sixteen-year-olds working at a theme park. Our first kiss was the night of an after-hours employee party celebrating the opening of a big new roller coaster. We got married eight years later, after high school and college were behind us. Still going strong after 23 years.
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We met at a depression support group...seriously!

A couple months later we started what was supposed to be a "casual" relationship, but we accidentally fell in love. It's been almost three years now. We usually tell people we met through a friend!
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Old 04-10-2008, 08:23 PM   #7
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30 years june 4th. Was working at a mushroom farm and bought tickets to a Jimmy Buffet concert for BIL and sis on his AA graduation. Also bought myself a ticket and one other ticket for a date to be determined. BIL & sis & blind date picked me up at the farm - me looking and smelling my best - and we all rode up to the concert in BIL's single cab pickup. My date was wearing short white shorts and i was so enthused i branded her right off on the thigh with my roll-yer-own. After the concert and ride home she and i weren't ready to say good night , so i drove her to the beach and we hung out on the sand. Did my octopus imitation. I think she decided there was lots of room for me to improve, and she's been giving it her best shot since that day. She sticks to a task (like, f'rinstance, me) longer than anyone i know, is trustworthy to the end, and just has no quit in her. Pretty lucky guy, me.
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Old 04-10-2008, 09:44 PM   #8
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My college room mate arranged a blind date for me. 1976. Both of us 18 years old. We married the following June and will celebrate 31 years this summer. My parents also met on a blind date. They celebrated 66 years
together this year! I guess love IS blind (at least in my family)

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Old 04-10-2008, 11:37 PM   #9
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hehehehehe.....started off as friends.....he was back in his home town, being pursued by his mother's friends for their daughters. I was eight years older, divorced, determined never to have my heart vulnerable enough to be broken again.

we hung out for awhile, just enjoyed each other's company. I liked him because he wasn't interested in a "real" relationship where I could get hurt. He liked having the cover of dating someone to keep the mamas off him, and certainly wasn't going to get serious about this older woman.

friendship turned into friendship "with privileges", which turned into, oh my gosh, I think I love you after several years.......

married nearly thirty years now.....happily, and still best friends.

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Which one?
OK then, all three.

First wife: we were in High School together. We had some classes together and started dating the summer after we graduated. We were engaged 3 years and were married for 15. It ended in divorce.

Second wife: we met at work and were close friends after my divorce but never dated until we both moved to the same location a year apart. We were married almost 10 years. It ended when she became ill and died.

Third (and present) wife: we met on the internet. We dated for 9 months and have been married 3 years.

We do the best we can each day. Some days are better than others but at the end of the day we still love each other and hope for a good tomorrow.
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48 years this Month. Met on one of my earlier year travels around the World. 4 Kids all self-sustaining, lots of relocations and if it ended today, it could never been better or replaced.
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First: 1976. Lived in an apartment one floor below me and a roommate. Saw her changing her engine oil in the parking lot when I came home from work and I was impressed - I'd never seen a girl willing to get her hands dirty to save a few bucks, and said so. A couple weeks later I came home from the lodge at the same time she & roomie came home and she invited me in for a tequila sunrise. I had no idea what that was, but a pretty girl was inviting me in and I wasn't going to turn that down. Married ten months later. Turned out that changing her engine oil was a one-time experiment and she had champagne taste on a beer budget. She thought it was okay if the house payment was late since the late fee didn't kick in for 10 days and it went downhill from there. She bailed when I refused to take out a loan for a trip six months after cleaning out meager savings for a trip to Disney World. That 5-year period was also the only time in my life that I have ever bounced a check, was late on a rent payment, was late on a house payment, received a telephone call about an overdue bill, and had to routinely "play the float" to make the house payment on time. Then she said I was "tense and irritable". Mea culpa.

Second: 1983. While talking with my niece, 5 years younger than me and just back from Texas after her divorce, commiserating about divorce and chasing credit card bills, she said there was a girl at work I should meet. At the time, being in the middle of a divorce, I wasn't interested in meeting anyone wearing a skirt. Lizzie kept bugging me about meeting this girl and more to placate her than anything else I agreed. Well, she was pretty and I figured life had to go on so 3 weeks later I took her out to dinner. She was a bookkeeper/accountant and can balance a checkbook so that was a plus. And the only time in her life she paid any credit card interest charges was when her car broke down, she was broke, and she had that paid off in three months. "Hmmm...."

After I bought a house by myself (hard to do in that area, impossible now for a single guy) I had every intention of being hard-core bachelor for life. I was "house poor" for years and often a "night on the town" consisted of a fire in the fireplace, a rented movie, spaghetti and maybe a bottle of wine if I'd worked some overtime. She came over one night, had a hole in her jeans, and said "Yeah, I know, but I hate shopping". "Hmmmm...."

Dated 4 years, both families had given up on us. Finally at work I decided it was time to fish or cut bait, made a U-turn, went back to the station, put in a leave slip, went over to her place and proposed. A wide-eyed second of silence, then "YES!" Will be 20 years next July. Damn, she's still real cute.
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2nd husband and I met at a costume party . I was dresed as a dance hall girl and he was in a matching costume with his date . We met again six months later and it was an instant attraction .We dated for a year and got married and lived happily ever after until his death .A year and a half after his death I met my SO on the internet . I was probably not ready for a relationship and pushed him away put he pursued and we've been together for eight years .
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It was 1980. I was on my 10th or so shot of Jose Cuervo when this blonde walked into the bar.... I can't remember the details of that night, but we started dating and married in 1982. Still married today.
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Originally Posted by haha View Post
You could probably skip the rain and silly costume, but those upside-down kisses can be highly appreciated.

Heh, dirty old man!
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Awwwww, you guys are so cute! What great stories!

Um, not surprisingly, we were drinking...on a scuba diving trip to Florida with a bunch of wasn't until much later (days) that he found out I was still just a wee bit underage...and not just drinking age.

I didn't think to ask how old he was, but he was roommates with my dive instructor who was 40 at the time, so when he asked how old I thought he was, I said, I dunno, (dive instructor's) age? Yeah, he was 26. Smooth, Sarah, very smooth.

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i cried the first day i met my best friend. our mothers tried to get us to meet for years. we finally met one fatal day when our two families were going boating. it was my brother’s last day in town, years before we became friends, and i had so successfully avoided contact for the weeks of his vacation here that this gathering became a family mandate. on my arrival, mom’s friend put a bunch of stuff in my arms to take out to the boat and told me to go introduce myself to her son.

my soon-to-be-new-found-best-buddy-ever was heading up to the flybridge as i approached the dock. as soon as i laid eyes on those legs of his i said to myself: “you’re mine.” we hadn’t even spoken a word, yet there was not a doubt in my mind.

boarding his dad’s boat, i introduced myself with some line that made him laugh out loud. he answered with a line that made me laugh more. i responded and he laughed even louder. in a contest of good cheer, we laughed so much that i don’t know how either of us ever got a word in edgewise. and from that moment on, no one else would ever have a chance.

after so many years of being the only person in a room to find something funny, i found this guy had been in the next room, all along, laughing alone at the very same things. we had an amazing day on the water. after dinner that night, my new friend had to get to the airport so of course i volunteered to drive him as that gave me more time with him and less with my brother. until right before his flight, we sat in my car outside the airport, in deep conversation and absolute laughter, completely connected.

contemplating the day on my way home, i found that tears were falling from my eyes which never happened like that before nor since. i realized at that moment that in meeting this guy, i had become for the first time intimately acquainted with myself. i had made contact with a soul who could see me, with eyes that shared my point of view, with a sense of humor and humanity that mirrored my own. i had finally met someone who not only knew himself, but knew also me. i had so much enjoyed a day with family and friends, a day i hadn’t even cared to attend, that now i was alone, in my car on i-95 with tears in my eyes instead of laughter.

we became fast friends with that first day and subsequent phone calls and letters and weekend visits that lasted for weeks, weeks that lasted for months, months that turned into years in atonement for the years that we avoided meeting each other.

two of a kind who life could not keep apart and only death could tear asunder. we had so much fun and i am still in love. but i fear i will never hear myself laugh as loud again or ever hear myself laugh even louder from the other side of the room. we lived fast but a little stupid though we had such an amazing time. he died not a young man, but an old soul who understood life with clarity few ever attain. life was so funny back then that i could have died laughing happy but instead all i have left are tears.

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Old 04-11-2008, 09:19 AM   #19
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We met in a smoky, stinky bar. We just caught each other's eyes. Things went pretty fast, and we never really dated. Within a few weeks, we couldn't keep away from each other. Within a few months we were practically living together. I proposed to her under the Eiffel tower 10 months after our first meeting (Yep, Tom Cruise got nothing on me!). We married 2 years later, and in May we'll be starting our 8th year as a married couple.

By the way, we found out on our first meeting that we both worked in the same building but we had never met before.
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Met in '72 on Chincoteague Island, Va while both of our families were camping out on summer vacation. I was 17, she was 16. We are both the oldest child and very responsible. We were just friendly at first but I kept writing to her all during the school year. When she moved away to college I used to drive 13 hours each way to visit her at school every three weeks. Married in '76 and we are coming up on 32 years. Our secret: My mother was right, suffering does build character. We were starving and had lots of bad things happen to us but when bad things happen you really see the true character of the other person. It also helps that my wife is *extremely* tolerant.

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