I recently received two different invites to friends and/or familiy who have a graduating senior in high school. I am unsure what the normal or expected way to handle each of the situations might be so I though I would ask you all for advice:
Situation 1 - Former college buddy of mine who was one of my better friends in college (we are now 43), has his oldest son graduating from high school. My friend lives about 5 hours away so I have only seen him about a handful of times since college, but we do trade emails once a month or so. I have seen his kids only once since they were small. Anyway, he sent me an invite in the mail to his graduation and a party that is actually on a seperate weekend. Due to how far away he lives and other obligations, I can not attend either. Should I still send a card to his son with money? If so, how much?
Situation 2 - A first cousin of mine has his oldest son graduating from high school. When I was a kid I lived near my cousin and we saw each other fairly frequently, normally around holiday events at my grandparents. Since we have been adults, we only see each other maybe ever 5 years or so. Not a very close relationship for a while now. I received an invitation via Facebook from my cousin's wife inviting me to their son's graduation party. I can't attend the party due to other plans. Should I send a card to their son with money? If so, how much?
Situation 1 - Former college buddy of mine who was one of my better friends in college (we are now 43), has his oldest son graduating from high school. My friend lives about 5 hours away so I have only seen him about a handful of times since college, but we do trade emails once a month or so. I have seen his kids only once since they were small. Anyway, he sent me an invite in the mail to his graduation and a party that is actually on a seperate weekend. Due to how far away he lives and other obligations, I can not attend either. Should I still send a card to his son with money? If so, how much?
Situation 2 - A first cousin of mine has his oldest son graduating from high school. When I was a kid I lived near my cousin and we saw each other fairly frequently, normally around holiday events at my grandparents. Since we have been adults, we only see each other maybe ever 5 years or so. Not a very close relationship for a while now. I received an invitation via Facebook from my cousin's wife inviting me to their son's graduation party. I can't attend the party due to other plans. Should I send a card to their son with money? If so, how much?