Westernskies
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... and I'm surprised that it stayed professional for as long as it did.
No joking on this thread; it's OK on others.
... and I'm surprised that it stayed professional for as long as it did.
Another poster mentioned that none of Graf's officer siblings seem to have stepped in to help, either.
LAST fall, while working with corporate women across various industries, job levels and generations, an age-old issue re-emerged at a near-fever pitch. Women were obsessed about being labeled a “bitch,” and to a degree I hadn’t seen since the 1990s.
As one woman put it, “Even in this day and age, a guy barks out an order and he is treated like someone who is in charge and a leader. But when a woman communicates in the exact same way, she’s immediately labeled assertive, dominating, aggressive and overbearing.”
.... back when she was a LT, and she was a younger version of the stories we are reading today.
I haven't figured out whether DC duty is "praise" or "punishment". I'd think a CO relieved for this sort of incident would be subject to a lot of Beltway scrutiny and generally ridiculed.I have heard stories conflicting with this statement. (Her sister, a VADML, is about to be my boss next month, so I admit to only having heard rumors about her retaining her next assignment in DC.)
A USNR CDR and I were discussing CAPT Graff over the weekend - he was stationed with her back when she was a LT, and she was a younger version of the stories we are reading today.
The shorthand reference is "An officer and a babysitter."Being the commander of that situation would possibly drive one crazy.
My rules of thumb - don't get intimately involved with anyone on the ship or sub. Restraint is important as a female minority in the military.
I served with a couple guys who were little screamers working their way up to big screamers. Each seemed lost without a conflict to focus his attention, so if things were running smoothly then they'd go out and create a conflict. Even the other submariners thought that they had problems, but again by all BUPERS indicators they completed successful careers that wouldn't raise an eyebrow on a résumé.Hmmm, shame on her previous commanders - they should have nipped that in the bud, i.e. mentored her better so that she might temper her communication approach (demeaning and screaming) and become a better person and leader. Or, she didn't listen....and was still promoted. Well, it looks like that has now stopped.
The Time article said her dad is a retired Captain, and I playing with that info I came across these comments who identified himself as a Cowpens plank owner who served under Graf:When I was at COMSUBPAC staff, another Graf presided as CO over an absolute disaster of an Arctic deployment. Admittedly those are challenging and not always damage-free but the other COs with Arctic experience pointed out his leadership mistakes. He's quite a bit older than this Graf, though, so probably not a close relative.
As to the person who commented about giving Graf respect since she has served her country for almost 30 years – she gets what she gives. Anyone remember her parents’ visit to the WSC while we were in Gibraltar? Remember the passdown that her father, a retired Navy Captain, was NOT to be given honors when arriving or departing the ship? Screw that. He retired – with honor – as a Navy Captain. He earned those honors – something she most definitely has not earned. Needless to say, as OOD I gave him honors when I was on watch – she came screaming out of the hanger bay “Who in the f---…” saw me, stopped, said “never mind”, and went back to finish getting ready to go out with them for the evening.
When our kid was training for the taekwondo black belt test, her cousin (the Army Ranger) told her that 100 pushups/2 minutes and 100 situps/2 minutes would max out the Army's male teenager standards...Yes, there are still male & female requirements in the USN/R, and it changes with age.
I agree - there should just be one set of standards.
Maybe I'm a little slow on the uptake-- did I miss an announcement?Fireup20[-]25[/-]20
Maybe I'm a little slow on the uptake-- did I miss an announcement?
I can't tell the whole plan from the article, but I sure hope they're expecting to include a crowd of chief petty officers and senior enlisted as well. USNA learned early on that scattering just a few women per company was a recipe for attritional disaster.
May 01, 2010
The U.S. military's ban on women serving on submarines passed quietly into history.
Secretary of Defense Robert Gates notified lawmakers in mid-February that the Navy would be lifting the ban, unless Congress took some action against it. And Navy spokesman Lt. Justin Cole said Thursday morning that the deadline for Congress to act passed at midnight.
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The Navy plans to start by assigning three female officers each in eight different crews of guided-missile attack submarines and ballistic missile submarines. That involves two submarines on the east coast and two on the west coast. Officials said that since more living space is available aboard those subs, it won't require modification to the vessels, allowing the Navy to move faster to include women.
The female officers would be assigned after completing the 15-month submarine officer training pipeline, which consists of nuclear power school, prototype training, and a submarine officer basic course. The first subs to get women each have about 15 officers and roughly 140 enlisted personnel.
Women make up 15 percent of the active duty Navy - there are 52,446 out of the force of 330,700.