@Nords - nothing is stopping me from getting on the path to ER. I am self employed, and traditionally I would reinvest most of my cash into my business, however now I am at a point where I can keep coasting along like this for awhile and my overhead is low, so I am focusing inward on lowering expenses and also raising revenues by increasing prices. You're right, it's much easier to lower expenses. Just changing my behavior with electricity has cut my electric bill by $30/month. I just unplug things when I'm not using them instead of leaving them on standby.
It's a bit of a challenge when you live with your partner, however I have no kids, no property, and very little debt left, and I'm under 30 so the opportunities are there. I just have to get her into this concept a bit more. I've just slashed expenses with my business recently so I am looking to direct that money into something else. Had some ideas I wanted to cultivate to make money on the side, and I even looked into purchasing a laundromat business or something of that nature. I can always choose to make more money (at the expense of my personal life, of course), however I want to learn more ways for my money to work harder for me. Some savings are deducted automatically for my SEP-IRA and some other long-term savings vehicles, however I definitely think I can do more.
@Surewhitey - I'm with u on the cable thing. My cable bill is approaching $180/month and I've been considering dropping much of my service since we don't even watch much TV, but I do enjoy HBO.
It's tough to get rid of all those things that we enjoy. I definitely agree that it's all about a person's perspective. I have a friend who makes a low six-figure income, has a wife, 2 dogs, etc. and lives on less than I do. He told me that because both he and his wife never really experienced a middle class lifestyle until recently, that he was never really "accustomed" to anything, so they don't spend much, don't drive, and don't need much space to live in. I think the only thing they "splurge" on is travel.
With me and my partner on the other hand, we came from what most would consider a middle-class backgrounds. We were never really "keep up with the joneses" people, however we are just accustomed to having certain things. I make about the same as my friend does, however I live in a bigger place, in a more expensive neighborhood, and I have a gas-guzzling SUV, premium cable, and travel a lot. Plus a few other expensive habits.
I really did not think about all of this until recently after I read Early Retirement Extreme, however we both enjoy a good standard of living, but I realize that I have to un-learn many of the bad habits and expectations I picked up as I grew up. One of the things that had a huge impact on me was when the author talked about purchasing real estate. I did not realize until lately that when you get a mortgage, that you wind up paying double the actual value of the loan. That was a shock, and really got me to re-think what I truly valued in life.
Either way, I say all that to say that this is a constant learning experience for me, and I thank everyone for their insight.