HFWR
Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Do we need to ask your ex-spouse?
Yeah, if you want her side of the story...
Do we need to ask your ex-spouse?
Exactly so. An observer can listen, note the highest stressors and your reaction to them, and give you IDEAS (not commands) to try to change or lessen your negative reactions to them.Yes, that was my experience. Sometimes you need somebody outside your "sphere" that can view your situation as an observer - not clouded by any previous knowledge of you, your family, your friends, and your situation.
Like you, it took three sessions to "get my thinking straight" at the time...
Another great way to deal with the downs of life is writing . I wrote journals when I was grieving and they really did help me get my feelings out especially the anger .
Am I the only one who was happier after the divorce?
The technical term is "blog", and if you strike the right nerves then AOL will buy it for hundreds of millions of dollars!Now I have a journal of toxic rage mixed with observations of my kids as they grow...
Am I the only one who was happier after the divorce?
No , add me to the list !
SSRIs are probably way over prescribed but it is just when you start seriously considering steel jacketed answers that anti-depressants are probably really called for. For many people they can kick start us out of a prolonged lassitude and don't need to be viewed as a permanent solution.I appreciate the explanation. That said, the only anti-depressants I would consider is steel-jacketed ones. The overuse of these things is part of what is wrong with the pharma industry and our medical system, IMO.
I suppose that I am not a fundamentally happy person, given life and choices to date. However, lately there has been a collection of bad outcomes (major illness for DW's and my dads, work turning very toxic in a short time, one dog dying another on a short timeline, etc.) and I would greatly appreciate hearing how others deal with tough times in their lives. I am not a terribly religious personfor all that I went to a Catholic high school and was confirmed, and seeking solace in liquid form is not a long term solution. I am also not real interested in counseling. What else does one do? How do you make peace with things when life turns into one big sh!t sandwich?
Some people get depressed and some don't. I think it's just an inherent characteristic of individuals. It's natural for those of us who tend not to get depressed -- I'm one -- to think it's the result of a habit of thought or an approach to life, but I really don't think that's it. Those of us with sunny dispositions can sometimes find an objective basis to rationalize our happiness, and those with gloomy dispositions may find ways to rationalize their sadness. But actually, we're just different.