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04-30-2014, 03:38 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Nov 2010
Location: Sarasota, FL & Vermont
Posts: 36,264
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Quote:
Originally Posted by rodi
.....I refuse to be assimilated into the facebook collective.
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Resistance is futile.....
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04-30-2014, 03:43 PM
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Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Eastern WV Panhandle
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I suppose if someone wanted to trudge through all my posts it'd be possible to figure it out the real me, but why would anyone bother? Talk about not having a life....
But I'll share some of the things in daily life that I think others must have had to deal with such as those with dealing with elderly parents. In this case the forum was a great source of information in just knowing that we weren't the only ones having to deal with it.
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04-30-2014, 04:06 PM
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Recycles dryer sheets
Join Date: Apr 2010
Posts: 273
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I share pretty freely here and elsewhere. I guess I take comfort in the places I frequent I am pretty much in the mainstream of those groups, and therefore get some herd immunity.
For example, here I talk finances, index funds, credit card rebates, tax stuff, etc. There is nothing so exotic here that I would stand out compared to other users, thus its pretty unlikely that I will be stalker worthy. I also used to be heavy on a home theater board (now lightly read), and there was one guy who had a fantastic room under construction who pulled all his pictures due to a stalker. He was high net worth and had awesome toys. I never got the full story, but I keep it in mind.
I guess I should criticize myself for frequenting amen corners where most people share my worldview. Too much time in the amen corner can make you myopic. But my interests are pretty defined.
In terms of stories of my life, I don't think I'd criticize my family in hurtful ways, despite the semi-anonymous nature of the web. Or at least I'd try not to. Maybe if I was going through a bad run I might not live up to that.
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04-30-2014, 04:53 PM
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Recycles dryer sheets
Join Date: Aug 2013
Posts: 349
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The NSA already knows it all and this guy is their informant.
Oh wait, that's all the public info.
That's why everything I post here is made-up. I'm really a spendthrift who manages a Starbucks and has a negative net worth.
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04-30-2014, 05:34 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Jul 2009
Posts: 5,307
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I find it helpful to think of privacy in online forums in 2 ways:
Do I care if people reading this forum who know me as Katsmeow find the RL me?
Do I care if people who know the RL me find Katsmeow?
For the 1st question, I mostly don't. Yes, there is the tiny chance that some nut who would harm me could find my identity and then could track me down. But, that can happen anywhere you go. Think of all the people you casually meet in the real world. Someone could develop a grudge or be nuts and come after you.
When I started my blog I had to think about this. In the blog segment I blog in it is common to post photos of yourself. Some people blog and use their first and last name. Many people blog and use photos and first name (what I do). There are a few people who don't use their name and post photos covering up their face. I always felt that last one was sort of a losing battle. I ultimately decided that I would go ahead and post the photos.
By and large I don't really think much harm will come from someone knowing that Katsmeow is my real identity. I post quite a bit about financial information here. Again, I don't really see that any harm comes to me from doing that even if someone finds me.
On the second question, I do think about what happens if people I know in RL find me here. It would be very easy for someone who knows me in RL to recognize me here (even leaving aside the recent photo I posted). I've said enough about my life that anyone who knew me at all well would recognize me.
This does constrain me a bit in what I post. Not so much what I post about me, but more what I post about others. And, for those still working, I could see being prudent about what one posts about a job situation for example.
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04-30-2014, 05:57 PM
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#26
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: May 2008
Posts: 6,499
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While my subsoncsious applies Gestalt at the time of my postings, the actual output is not necessarily confined by reason. Thus my disclosures are allover the place.
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04-30-2014, 08:20 PM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Sep 2005
Location: Charleston, SC
Posts: 13,566
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I'm with Katsmeow on the limiting what I post about others. I'm really me, findable in RL, and that makes me cautious about posting things that would be hurtful. And I don't post about my job, either.
Long ago I posted my initial numbers, but those aren't where I am now. I'm pretty open all the way around, and it is important to me to be the same "me" here and in RL.
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04-30-2014, 08:40 PM
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#28
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Dec 2006
Location: Collin County, TX
Posts: 9,294
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I used to cherish my privacy.... But the first time I went to a gynecologist he said, 'scoot down just a little bit more....'
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04-30-2014, 09:01 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Jan 2005
Posts: 3,528
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Too funny!
I post about my likes and dislikes. I have posted and asked questions regarding money, but never can do exact figures, simply because I don't track things as closely as most people on here do. There are a couple of things from my younger days that I do not talk about, because I would not want my children or friends to read about it. As far as I know, they do not read this site, but you can't be too careful.
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05-01-2014, 09:21 AM
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Gone but not forgotten
Join Date: Jul 2012
Location: Peru
Posts: 6,335
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Major Tom...
You're hitting the right spots...
As I ponder my response to the "critical mass thread"... this one is a little easier...
In resolving my theory of "why we do what we do", my conclusion is that it boils down to the ego
Quote:
: the opinion that you have about yourself
psychology : a part of the mind that senses and adapts to the real world
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... and so I believe that what we say and do, is a pure reflection of the way we want to adapt to those around us. We only post because we want to share, and most prefer to be seen in a helpful and friendly way. The only reason not to share is fear, and more often than not, a fear of a blow to the ego, rather than a fear of physical or financial harm.
While I would not share direct numbers... in dollars, passwords, or specifics that could harm my family or friends, offering up experiences and thoughts is part of the social interaction that brings me to the forum, and the reason for reading the experiences of others.
Particularly in the later years, when social activities outside the home become more limited, I am finding that the learning experience comes less from those around me... physically... and much more in a condensed form from reading watching and interacting with other sources... smarter people, and the incredible growth and availability of knowledge through the internet. I often wonder what life would have been like, if I knew then what I know now.
So yeah... sharing. Sharing here... Not just knowledge, but entertainment that comes from opening the website to see what kind of new thoughts others have. I can get the news headlines for the day in five minutes on the internet, but where else can I go to find opinions on vacuum cleaners, roof repairs, music, cars, hobbies... and what other people find important in their lives? Not just one columnist's idea, but a cross section of what smart people think and do.
The only problem is trying to remember the little white lies that I used in trying to make a point.
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05-01-2014, 09:38 AM
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Moderator Emeritus
Join Date: Sep 2007
Posts: 17,773
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OMG we have the same doctor!
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05-01-2014, 09:52 AM
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Full time employment: Posting here.
Join Date: Dec 2013
Location: San Diego
Posts: 880
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Quote:
Originally Posted by imoldernu
Major Tom...
You're hitting the right spots...
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In resolving my theory of "why we do what we do", my conclusion is that it boils down to the ego
... and so I believe that what we say and do, is a pure reflection of the way we want to adapt to those around us. We only post because we want to share, and most prefer to be seen in a helpful and friendly way. The only reason not to share is fear, and more often than not, a fear of a blow to the ego, rather than a fear of physical or financial harm.
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I suspect that many of us have led "interesting" lives and had some "interesting" experiences during our lives and would rather not have all of those "interesting" experiences made public.
Not speaking of myself of course...
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05-01-2014, 07:37 PM
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Moderator
Join Date: Dec 2007
Location: Eastern WV Panhandle
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Quote:
Originally Posted by imoldernu
So yeah... sharing. Sharing here... Not just knowledge, but entertainment that comes from opening the website to see what kind of new thoughts others have. I can get the news headlines for the day in five minutes on the internet, but where else can I go to find opinions on vacuum cleaners, roof repairs, music, cars, hobbies... and what other people find important in their lives? Not just one columnist's idea, but a cross section of what smart people think and do.
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That's one of the things that attracted me here and keeps me attracted is the depth and breadth of knowledge, experience and wisdom, much of it attained the hard way.
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05-01-2014, 07:57 PM
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#34
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Nov 2007
Posts: 7,746
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I lie just enough to throw off the internet detectives. Some of what I say is true.
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Retired in 2013 at age 33. Keeping busy reading, blogging, relaxing, gaming, and enjoying the outdoors with my wife and 3 kids (8, 13, and 15).
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05-01-2014, 08:20 PM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 1,901
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If you are on Facebook you can run this to find out what one data miner surmises about you:
Watch Dogs - Digital Shadow
It does place an app in your Facebook account so after you run it I would delete it.
I'm sure the same could be done from our inputs on:
early-retirement.org
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05-01-2014, 08:42 PM
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Moderator Emeritus
Join Date: Apr 2011
Location: Conroe, Texas
Posts: 18,645
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I cut and paste them into a Word Doc labelled "White Lies on the Internet" and keep it on my desktop...
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How Much Do You Share Here?
05-01-2014, 09:04 PM
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#37
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Feb 2011
Location: NC Triangle
Posts: 5,807
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How Much Do You Share Here?
Quote:
Originally Posted by Bikerdude
If you are on Facebook you can run this to find out what one data miner surmises about you:
Watch Dogs - Digital Shadow
It does place an app in your Facebook account so after you run it I would delete it.
I'm sure the same could be done from our inputs on:
early-retirement.org
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I don't do Facebook, but if some data miner gets someone interested in steel guitar, I say thumbs up. I was much more concerned about privacy when employed.
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05-01-2014, 09:12 PM
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#38
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Administrator
Join Date: Jul 2005
Location: N. Yorkshire
Posts: 34,056
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Bestwifeever
OMG we have the same doctor!
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Is he a member of this site?
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Retired in Jan, 2010 at 55, moved to England in May 2016
Enough private pension and SS income to cover all needs
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05-02-2014, 04:43 AM
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#39
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Administrator
Join Date: Jan 2008
Location: Chicagoland
Posts: 40,586
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Alan
Is he a member of this site?
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'scoot down just a little bit more, please...
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05-02-2014, 06:27 AM
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#40
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
Join Date: Mar 2007
Posts: 14,328
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Quote:
Originally Posted by aja8888
I cut and paste them into a Word Doc labelled "White Lies on the Internet" and keep it on my desktop...
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I do that too, but it forced me to upgrade my hard drive.
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