Marriage Proposal on FIRE Forum

[Scuba]

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Originally Posted by Crabby Mike Really? I wish I'd known that back when I was dating ... would have saved me a lot of dinners! I always assumed it was the other way around ...

Yes, this post surprised me. I don’t know too many women who would be willing to get intimate that quickly. For me, going out for a meal with someone is a good way to assess their character. You get to see how they treat the wait staff, how well they tip, and whether they really enjoy food or not.

Also, most women I know are independent enough that they don’t expect the male to buy dinner on a “get acquainted” date.

[97guns]

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Originally Posted by sturbridge It's not the holding of doors. Its the expectation that all women are the same, and that if one just follows the recipe, success is assured and the resulting entitlement attitude.

My wife being from the small village life had never had anyone open doors for her, her expectations are very minimal in comparison to the American women I’ve been with, it’s one reason I looked outside the USA for a spouse. Another reason was seeing my brother go through his divorce of the “all American” gal that cared less about him when he was sick or in any kind of trouble

[sheehs1]

Fell into this thread this morning! Highly entertaining and thanks for the chuckles! To the OP, I wish you well in your search.

To others: Agree on the match.com comments. Tried it a couple of different times with breaks in-between. I particularly like the drop dead gorgeous men whose sentence structure when writing is broken English, just moved to America (all of them that contacted me), divorced, etc. Scammers for sure. Pictures doctored for sure or taken out of magazines.

While I am sure some out their have had luck on match, I have given up. Too much work, too little reward. Generally met nice people, just not for me. Those that might have been wanted me to follow them in their life. One was particularly overbearing about that. That's not for me either.

I think merging totally separate lives at this stage of life only works with common interests, a lot of give and take, respect for each other's individual lives prior until the "merging" happens, similar net worth and financial outlook, etc., etc,. etc..

Thanks for the thread guys and gals!

[Winemaker]

I had always asked a young lady out to dinner on the first date. It taught me several things, some good, some bad.
One of my most attractive dates, who I had a long term relationship ( I kept giving her more and more chances, and she kept on hanging herself), gave me the correct signs to run for my life, on the first date, but her beauty blinded me. At a restaurant, she would order an appetizer, a salad, and a large entree. She would then eat all the bread/rolls at the table, and part of the second basket. By the time the salad was served, she was full and never touched the rest of her dinner. And she never took a doggie bag!

Other dates would talk with mouth full, complain about other diners, items on menu, send things back.

I knew DW was a keeper when she ordered a 22 oz. rib eye and ate it all. I have always tried to figure out where she put that steak on her 135# 5'9" frame.

[Amethyst]

Easy! Before a dinner date, a smart planner will eat less than usual during the day, in the hopes of eating really good dinner food that is worth appreciating.

Your experiences with other women sound like you were strangely attracted to women who were not well brought-up (I know that sounds old-fashioned, but I can't think of any better way to put it).

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Originally Posted by Winemaker I I knew DW was a keeper when she ordered a 22 oz. rib eye and ate it all. I have always tried to figure out where she put that steak on her 135# 5'9" frame.

[Oz investor]

must have been a great steak ( most aren't so easy to swallow as they cool ) that always helps .

after some of the women i have met , i never assume anything at first meeting but i always LISTEN to what they say .

[Mulligan]

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Originally Posted by aja8888 Interesting! Reminds me of my "single again" years between the ages of 49 - 53. I dated women as young as 29 and as old as 55. I went with the older crowd in the end, but the younger ones were a good time. The younger ones weren't much on conversation and compatibility, but knowing our time together was for a short time made up for a lot of the differences.

I went the same track as you. I remember one when I after a few dates she asked how old I was (41 at the time). She said wow, I have never dated anyone that old before. I then asked her and she replied 29. So my classic (and truthful at the time) response was. Well we already got something in common as I have never dated anyone as old as you either!

[REWahoo]

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Originally Posted by Mulligan So my classic (and truthful at the time final before she got up and huffed off) response was. Well we already got something in common as I have never dated anyone as old as you either!

FIFY

[Mulligan]

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Originally Posted by REWahoo FIFY

She was digging me RE. And she was very attractive lady. But it wasnt a month later and she was already talking about wanting children and the “white picket fence” thing. I had already “been there and done that”, so I told her needed to move on and find someone younger who shared the same dream, as I just wasnt that guy at my age...And thank God I was smart enough to know that as I certainly wouldnt be retired now.

[Yarnstormer]

Do we all get to chime in on the prenup?

[Yarnstormer]

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Originally Posted by athena53 Apparently there's a subset of women who make a hobby of being taken out to nice restaurants by guys they meet on match.com. Here's what you need to do: 1. Include at least one picture of you dressed in a suit or a tux, holding up a glass of wine.

Lol!! True!