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03-08-2020, 08:12 AM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso) Give me a forum ...
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Originally Posted by Maenad
....please remind them (and any family members) that they have no legal obligation to pay off debts that your brother had. A friend lost his dad unexpectedly and had creditors calling him to claim that it would be "the right thing to do" to pay off his deceased father's debts. F*cking sleazy - trying to take advantage of a young man in his 20s who was just orphaned (mom had died years before). ...
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+1000 Too many greedy creditors try to shame unknowing survivors into pay a decedent's debts... if they call you simply tell them that it was his debt and there is no money in the estate to pay and they are out of luck... and if they call again that you will file a harassment complaint with the appropriate authorities.
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03-08-2020, 08:15 AM
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Recycles dryer sheets
Join Date: Feb 2014
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Originally Posted by MarieIG
If the ex is no longer a beneficiary, most likely the children would be. It sounds as if this estate is more trouble than it is worth, and very, very dicey. I would turn the car over to the ex (as mother of the three children) and the oldest son. I would not touch being the executor of this "estate" with a ten foot pole. Try to work something out as to being reimbursed for funeral fees, that is something understood by the Courts should your actions ever come to be examined. I would not portray myself as an executor, and would not seek executor's fees.
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THIS is the best advice. Leave the estate alone. Get the car out of storage so you do not have to continue to pay for it. I doubt he has any or much money in his bank accounts, because some entity already took the money. He cashed his checks and that is how he was living, most likely.
Back away and grieve. He taught you a lesson is loss and letting go. Take care.
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03-08-2020, 08:19 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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+1 about creditors. When DW's aunt died, some creditor kept bothering her and asking for her aunts address. DW gave them the address of the cemetary
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03-08-2020, 08:29 AM
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Originally Posted by Souschef
... DW gave them the address of the cemetary
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Smart!
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03-14-2020, 08:49 AM
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Just as a reminder: The person named in the will as executor has no authority to do anything until he or she has been named by the court and given a written order confirming authority to act.
When someone dies owing much more than he owned, we normally leave it to the creditors to decide whether to have an estate opened.
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03-14-2020, 09:27 AM
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Post script: Today I closed out my involvement.
It turned out my brother's ex-wife and I were named as co-executors in the most recent will anyone could find.
I emailed my ex-SIL a declination to serve as an executor. (I copied my adult nephews and snail-mailed her a signed, paper copy.) She immediately acknowledged my emailed declination and thanked me for my work cleaning out the apartment and storing the vehicle. She had been eager to act, so I expect she is pleased I am bowing out.
I am happy to (I HOPE) be finished with this sad duty. Thanks again to everyone here who gave me *very* valuable advice during a tough time. You guys are the best
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