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So, many of you know I have a teenage stepson, he recently graduated high school and I'm finding myself a little stumped on how to support him at this age/point in his life.
He's going to the local community college, but as with some of his earlier academic challenges, he's failing to "get it" and his lack of motivation has already cost him placement in any courses he needs for the fall.
The local cc is super crowded and I had told him earlier that the only barrier to him attending would be his failure to snatch his registration as soon as he had a chance. Well, fell on deaf ears, he waited and all the classes are full.
I've stepped in and said he needs to go to the office, talk with the counselors and see if they had advice on how he could get a spot in any class next semester, they may know some classes that are less impacted then others etc.
Still, after this huge failure on his part, he still has that look on his face like I'm bothering HIM.
I'm telling you - I've lost my patience. I think perhaps cuz he doesn't look like the helpless little boy from long ago, he did well his last two years in high school my expectations went up too high?
I knew the transition to college would be tough, but perhaps overestimated his independence - partly cuz of his attitude that he had it all and we told him - please let us know when you need help we are here for you... (enter crickets).
Aside from that, his general attitude towards me is not endearing me at all. He never shows any ounce of gratitude, hides in his room and then only comes out to eat all the food in the house.
I guess my expectations that as he got older, he'd evolve into someone who appreciated his home, family and contributions to his ability to get this far were overblown...but I'm about to just squash my expectations and have a fire burning ceremony, so as not to feel this way any more.
Anyway, any bits of advice on what to do with a young man this age is appreciated. I've run out of books to read. He has a great relationship with his dad, btw, but his dad isn't exactly a wealth of advice on how to handle the college stuff so that usually lands on me...
He's going to the local community college, but as with some of his earlier academic challenges, he's failing to "get it" and his lack of motivation has already cost him placement in any courses he needs for the fall.
The local cc is super crowded and I had told him earlier that the only barrier to him attending would be his failure to snatch his registration as soon as he had a chance. Well, fell on deaf ears, he waited and all the classes are full.
I've stepped in and said he needs to go to the office, talk with the counselors and see if they had advice on how he could get a spot in any class next semester, they may know some classes that are less impacted then others etc.
Still, after this huge failure on his part, he still has that look on his face like I'm bothering HIM.
I'm telling you - I've lost my patience. I think perhaps cuz he doesn't look like the helpless little boy from long ago, he did well his last two years in high school my expectations went up too high?
I knew the transition to college would be tough, but perhaps overestimated his independence - partly cuz of his attitude that he had it all and we told him - please let us know when you need help we are here for you... (enter crickets).
Aside from that, his general attitude towards me is not endearing me at all. He never shows any ounce of gratitude, hides in his room and then only comes out to eat all the food in the house.
I guess my expectations that as he got older, he'd evolve into someone who appreciated his home, family and contributions to his ability to get this far were overblown...but I'm about to just squash my expectations and have a fire burning ceremony, so as not to feel this way any more.
Anyway, any bits of advice on what to do with a young man this age is appreciated. I've run out of books to read. He has a great relationship with his dad, btw, but his dad isn't exactly a wealth of advice on how to handle the college stuff so that usually lands on me...