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View Poll Results: Who does the cooking in your household?
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I do all or nearly all.
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I do most of it, the other does some (maybe just specialties).
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The other does all or nearly all.
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The other does most, I do some (maybe just specialties).
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We share the chore, more or less equally.
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It depends on when and what, see my posted explanation.
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Cooking? What’s wrong with restaurants?
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I don’t know where the kitchen is; my chef hates interference.
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This is the E-R Forum, my case is oh, so special.
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07-09-2019, 07:45 AM
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I don't mind doing most of the cooking, but that's the easy part.
As we say in 2019, the "emotional labor" is the heavier lifting: Deciding and planning. Whipping it together is the easy part, it's the shopping, the figuring what to have today, what's not the same as we had the last week, what looks good at the store, etc.
Like right now - no idea what we'll have for dinner. DH will say "just get something good!"
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07-09-2019, 08:02 AM
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Location: Flyover country
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Originally Posted by Mr._Graybeard
B. She's a stranger to any kind of spice -- her Irish heritage, I guess.
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That certainly sounds familiar. My Irish mother only knew one way to cook everything -- boil it to death.
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07-09-2019, 08:10 AM
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Join Date: May 2016
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Mr._Graybeard
She's a stranger to any kind of spice -- her Irish heritage, I guess.
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Is she related to Marge?
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07-09-2019, 08:58 AM
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In our working days I did all the housework and cooking along with the other pool boy duties. 14 years of retirement later I chop, she cooks, and I clean up, including dishes by hand.
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07-09-2019, 09:10 AM
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Originally Posted by braumeister
Based on a typical two (or more) person household, I wonder how cooking chores are split up among members here.
I enjoy cooking, but DW doesn't, so I do nearly all the cooking. OTOH, she is an extremely talented baker while I'm barely competent in that area with the exception of my artisan bread, so she does just about all the baking.
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I consider myself the butcher and the sous chef. Wife does all the hard work heh. I don't enjoy cooking, but I can grill just about anything and do enjoy it probably mostly because its outside.
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07-09-2019, 10:14 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by braumeister
That certainly sounds familiar. My Irish mother only knew one way to cook everything -- boil it to death.
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DW's specialty is corned beef and cabbage, made in the slow cooker. It's like Irish mojakka.
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07-09-2019, 12:17 PM
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I cooked for 36 years. When DH retired in 2015, I told him I am done. Funny how we eat out so much more now that he does 90% of the cooking. He does a fine job too.
I wear an apron when I volunteer weekly in the community center kitchen.
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07-09-2019, 12:30 PM
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Hubster does the bulk of dinners. It started when we were both working - he'd get home earlier and start cooking, and I'd get home with hungry kids from daycare... to a prepared meal. Now that we're both retired I do about 25% of meal prep and about 80% of kitchen clean up. A reasonably equitable distribution of labor.
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07-09-2019, 12:45 PM
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I cook and DW cleans up. This is a pot of beef bourguignon I made in Avignon last fall. Okay, for the purists, I used a cote du rhone.
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07-11-2019, 07:55 AM
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I’m the cook and DH cleans up. I do the grocery shopping too. I have trouble deciding what to make after 35 years, though. But if I ask DH or DS what they want for dinner, I get...crickets. Sigh...Fortunately DS can cook for himself, at least some. No aprons in our house.
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07-11-2019, 08:08 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by EastWest Gal
I’m the cook and DH cleans up. I do the grocery shopping too. I have trouble deciding what to make after 35 years, though. But if I ask DH or DS what they want for dinner, I get...crickets. Sigh...Fortunately DS can cook for himself, at least some. No aprons in our house.
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As the DH in a situation almost exactly the same, I would say it thusly:
DW is an excellent cook, much better than me, so she prepares meals and I clean. She asks for suggestions, but I like everything she prepares and am grateful for anything she does.
I can prep a few meals, but in order to gain the experience needed to improve my skill and take on more meal responsibility we’d both have to suffer through more of my cooking and neither of us want that.
The biggest contribution I can make after 40 years is getting take out that we both enjoy.
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07-11-2019, 08:33 AM
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Give me a museum and I'll fill it. (Picasso)
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Originally Posted by RetiredAt55.5
Funny, my wife is definitely the better cook but she's also a messy cook. I stay out of the kitchen when she's cooking since if I watch I have to comment on the mess she's making. And that never ends well ....
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DW is also messy whether I clean up or not but I am the cleanup man.
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07-11-2019, 10:50 AM
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 I forgot. As mentioned earlier in this thread:
Ditto. One cooks the other cleans.
heh heh heh -  
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07-11-2019, 11:45 AM
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We split the effort but we also go out to eat quite a bit. I enjoy cooking but it's a timing thing with us still both working, having the right ingredients, etc. Looking forward to cooking more in retirement.
Initially I did most of the cooking and she cleaned because I knew how to prepare more dishes. Now, I'll cook sometimes but usually do most of the prep because I'm faster cutting up stuff. She has her specialties that she'll cook but she typically does most of the clean up too.
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07-12-2019, 12:36 AM
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Originally Posted by marko
Wow! Had to check if I had written this!
I do 99% of our breakfast and dinner cooking. Not bad if I say so myself. I not only wear an apron but somebody gave me a chef's coat as well!
DW likes to bake and does a good job and also makes great sandwiches, which I suppose I could do but she likes to do it. Our unspoken rule is the person who doesn't cook does 90% of the clean up.
We also host Saturday night dinners on our deck for up to 20 all summer long; we've been doing this for almost 20 years and have it down to a science. We tend to share the prep, cooking and cleaning for that.
Here's one of our Saturday night Paella specials:
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07-12-2019, 03:55 AM
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DW does most. I do some, plus all the grilling.
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07-12-2019, 04:23 PM
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DW does most of the cooking I like baking. Cooking is an art, baking is a science said this NASA guy.
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07-16-2019, 05:45 PM
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I don't actually wear an apron, but I should. I do all the cooking. But- I do wear a bib when I eat because inevitably I end up spilling or dropping something on my clothes when I eat.
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07-16-2019, 05:46 PM
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I do 99% of the cooking. But we also dine out a lot, because that's my hobby and we have the money/time/opportunities to do so.
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07-16-2019, 05:50 PM
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I do all the cooking. Maybe once every few years or so I can get DW to cook a meal on my birthday. When she agrees, it is actually painful watching as she quickly gets nervous, uneasy, and I can tell she is very uncomfortable and almost panicking.
When we were youngsters in college, she once called her mother to ask how to boil hot dogs!
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