View Poll Results: Will you keep secrets to the grave?
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No. I'll go out the same way I came in this world: a clean slate.
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No. Honesty is always the best policy.
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No. I like to reveal secrets for the heck of it.
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Yes. I like to keep secrets for the heck of it.
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Yes. But only those that were confided to me.
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Yes. But only those that won't hurt/harm others or myself.
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Other.
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39.06% |
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Poll: Will You Carry Secrets to the Grave?
11-24-2011, 07:39 AM
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Poll: Will You Carry Secrets to the Grave?
A friend of mine is not doing well. I was talking to her daughter yesterday, she she mentioned some things which my friend never told me. Not that I mind, but I would have never known.
It got me wondering. Do we all carry secrets to the grave and why?
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Have you ever seen a headstone with these words
"If only I had spent more time at work" ... from "Busy Man" sung by Billy Ray Cyrus
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11-24-2011, 07:41 AM
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Originally Posted by easysurfer
Do we all carry secrets to the grave and why?
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Other: Yes, because they are NYDB.
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11-24-2011, 07:46 AM
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I should have made this poll a multiple option as for me, it's options 5 and 6.
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Have you ever seen a headstone with these words
"If only I had spent more time at work" ... from "Busy Man" sung by Billy Ray Cyrus
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11-24-2011, 07:59 AM
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11-24-2011, 08:35 AM
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Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
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11-24-2011, 08:55 AM
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Other. Yes, because I am too old to remember all that stuff any more...
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11-24-2011, 09:50 AM
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You betcha. If I sat down with someone to reveal all the deep, dark secrets of my past, the versions that I'd remember would no doubt be very different from the versions I tucked away long ago!
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11-24-2011, 09:55 AM
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Yes, of course I will. Certain facts do no one any good, and could do harm.
It is funny how things change, though. My parents kept it a secret that my father had been getting a divorce when they met. I finally figured it out when I was a teenager. When I asked my mother, she admitted the truth - at this point, the divorce was 40 years in the past!
Years later, after my father died, I told my older siblings he'd been married before, and they were amazed a) they'd never figured it out and b) my parents thought it was something to hide. But the only thing any of us cared about was whether we had half siblings, which we don't.
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11-24-2011, 10:06 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Amethyst
the only thing any of us cared about was whether we had half siblings, which we don't.
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Reminds me of a song the Kingston Trio did 50 - 60 years ago. A young man met a girl he wanted to marry and told his dad. Dad advised him he couldnt' marry her because "she's your sister but your mama don't know!" The young man met another girl, but again his dad told him he couldn't marry her because "she's your sister but your mama don't know." This happend again and again.
Finally, in desperation, the young man went to his mother and told her the situation. She said, "marry any one of them, your father ain't your father, but your father don't know!"
So, ya never know.........
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11-24-2011, 10:30 AM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by youbet
Reminds me of a song the Kingston Trio did 50 - 60 years ago. A young man met a girl he wanted to marry and told his dad. Dad advised him he couldnt' marry her because "she's your sister but your mama don't know!" The young man met another girl, but again his dad told him he couldn't marry her because "she's your sister but your mama don't know." This happend again and again.
Finally, in desperation, the young man went to his mother and told her the situation. She said, "marry any one of them, your father ain't your father, but your father don't know!"
So, ya never know.........
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Hadn't heard that one!
What's the point of a secret if it isn't a secret?! I've been told a family secret or two that I would rather have not known, especially since the subject of the secret was already dead. I see no point of speaking ill of the dead.
OTOH, I wouldn't want to marry my brother.
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11-24-2011, 10:55 AM
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I think of the Bernie Madoff tragedy.
If the sons had kept the family secret to the grave, then we'd be saying "Bernie who?" and they'd still be printing out the phony investment statements.
Or the case of the unibomber. Had his brother carried his secret to his grave, the unibomber probably would never have gotten caught.
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Have you ever seen a headstone with these words
"If only I had spent more time at work" ... from "Busy Man" sung by Billy Ray Cyrus
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11-24-2011, 12:30 PM
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I have AB - blood type, DH O -. When our children were born almost 40 years ago they had just come out with a shot to protect a 2nd child conceived from blood type antibodies. I told my MD not to worry as DH also had a - blood type. He laughed and said that in obstetrics there is a saying that you always know a baby's mother but husband isn't necessarily the father. Every mom with a - blood type gets the shot.
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11-24-2011, 01:58 PM
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Unless someone convinces me they have a legitimate need to know where the bodies and/or the loot are buried ...
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I thought growing old would take longer.
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I don't believ in "secretes" People should not hide truth.
11-24-2011, 02:05 PM
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I don't believ in "secretes" People should not hide truth.
I know this may sound like a smart alec remark, but I have been troubled by the idea of privacy and secretes all my life. When I was young, I suffered for being too honest about my feelings. I was punished and told to be more "discrete". I soon leanrned that we cannot go through life sucessfully without keeping secretes. "Saving Face" and "Keeping up Image" are profoundly important in every social situation. Personally, I am against this custom. If everyone were allowed to tell the truth all the time, we would live in a much more honest world and people would not be so shocked and injured by reality.
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11-24-2011, 02:20 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by easysurfer
It got me wondering. Do we all carry secrets to the grave and why?
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Submariners on "special missions" had to sign a stack of paperwork vowing never to discuss what it was or where they were that they may or may not have done something to somebody.
Why, we had this one mission where they actually... oh, wait... um, never mind.
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11-24-2011, 02:40 PM
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Tell one person a secret and it's no longer a secret. I ain't talking.
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11-24-2011, 04:10 PM
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Don't even understand the question.
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11-24-2011, 04:48 PM
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I don't know any secrets to take with me to my grave. My life is pretty much mundane. I don't really care to know about others secrets either unless it's secret to FI in a year or less legally without working 24/7/365(6)
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11-24-2011, 04:54 PM
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Quote:
Originally Posted by Robert Colbert
. If everyone were allowed to tell the truth all the time, we would live in a much more honest world and people would not be so shocked and injured by reality.
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Not to mention that there would be a lot fewer people - what with all of the really honest ones having been shot.
Sometimes, NOT telling secrets and/or the truth is the only way to survive in this world.
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11-24-2011, 05:22 PM
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I was worried for a second but since this is about other peoples deep dark secrets and I don't know any I can go out with a clean slate.
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