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haven't logged in for a while but believe it or not, I scan this site for interesting reads almost everyday.
Anyway, I'm running into a parenting issue that's somewhat difficult for me to handle. I've had a feeling that I'm going to get this sooner or later, but sooner than I expected. So here it's. My wife and I are not religious but we're not exactly atheist either, sort of in the not-believe, let believe crowd. I joined some of my friends and went to their church maybe a dozen times in my teenage years but that's about it, so needless to say, we don't have any religious practice at home or go to church. Well, not long after my eldest daughter started 2nd grade last year, she started hearing from her classmates that she should go to church and believe in God. At first I just casually told her to tell her friends that we're Buddists so she can fend them off, but things got a little more 'intense' lately.
She went to her cousin's place a couple weeks ago and started wanting to go to church with them last Sunday. Last night at dinner, she said she wanted go to church with her classmate this Sunday because her friend wants to bring an unsaved soul. I asked her why the sudden change(because she refused to go to church with them before), she became very emotional, quiet and trying to hold back tears in her eyes. After certain amount of patience and prying, she admits being told about the 'going to hell, being held by Satan and never see us again if you don't believe in God' ordeal. So I told her that no, there's no Hell but there's a lot of oil in the center of the earth and I'm not sure there's a Heaven up there either(and I showed her the pictures of earth/glaxy/space on google image) and I told her about some of the religious wars in the past(in a 9-year old context), how people believing in different gods fight each other but I held back on the Catholic Priests that seem to make the news every once in a while.
I actually don't mind her going to church, I think it's a good thing for her to have the exposure to different believes/cultures but I simply can't stand the brainwashing that comes with it. I know there're a lot of folks who are parents themselves so I'd like to know how you guys handle situations like this.
Anyway, I'm running into a parenting issue that's somewhat difficult for me to handle. I've had a feeling that I'm going to get this sooner or later, but sooner than I expected. So here it's. My wife and I are not religious but we're not exactly atheist either, sort of in the not-believe, let believe crowd. I joined some of my friends and went to their church maybe a dozen times in my teenage years but that's about it, so needless to say, we don't have any religious practice at home or go to church. Well, not long after my eldest daughter started 2nd grade last year, she started hearing from her classmates that she should go to church and believe in God. At first I just casually told her to tell her friends that we're Buddists so she can fend them off, but things got a little more 'intense' lately.
She went to her cousin's place a couple weeks ago and started wanting to go to church with them last Sunday. Last night at dinner, she said she wanted go to church with her classmate this Sunday because her friend wants to bring an unsaved soul. I asked her why the sudden change(because she refused to go to church with them before), she became very emotional, quiet and trying to hold back tears in her eyes. After certain amount of patience and prying, she admits being told about the 'going to hell, being held by Satan and never see us again if you don't believe in God' ordeal. So I told her that no, there's no Hell but there's a lot of oil in the center of the earth and I'm not sure there's a Heaven up there either(and I showed her the pictures of earth/glaxy/space on google image) and I told her about some of the religious wars in the past(in a 9-year old context), how people believing in different gods fight each other but I held back on the Catholic Priests that seem to make the news every once in a while.
I actually don't mind her going to church, I think it's a good thing for her to have the exposure to different believes/cultures but I simply can't stand the brainwashing that comes with it. I know there're a lot of folks who are parents themselves so I'd like to know how you guys handle situations like this.