SeriouslyI had a post all typed up to respond to this... then thought better of it.
I just spent over an hour composing a new thread on a pretty serious FIRE topic with links & quotes, wholesale edited it several times, and ultimately just deleted it altogether. Discretion is the better part of valor?
Doesn't happen to me often but I've done it before, has it ever happened to anyone else?
If you're tempted to ask what the topic was, let's leave that for later if at all...
I just spent over an hour composing a new thread on a pretty serious FIRE topic with links & quotes, wholesale edited it several times, and ultimately just deleted it altogether. Discretion is the better part of valor?
Doesn't happen to me often but I've done it before, has it ever happened to anyone else?
If you're tempted to ask what the topic was, let's leave that for later if at all...
My self imposed rules are:I just spent over an hour composing a new thread on a pretty serious FIRE topic with links & quotes, wholesale edited it several times, and ultimately just deleted it altogether. Discretion is the better part of valor?
Doesn't happen to me often but I've done it before, has it ever happened to anyone else?
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Here on ER-Org, I have probably composed and then deleted as many things as I have actually posted.
The main reasons I've self-censored myself (whether with deleting a reply I was working on or deleting an original post) are (1) I decided I wasn't adding anything to what was already said in that or another thread (this is usually the reason I self censor), (2) I thought anything I could say might hurt someone's feelings, (3) I felt that there wasn't anyway to say what I wanted to say without revealing too much personal information, and (4) I felt what I was going to post was going to create something too contentious.
Life's too short to be too serious.In between wisecracks and quips, I sometimes post something serious...
But I try to keep that to a minimum.
Ouch, that sounds painful Amethsyt. And here I thought all those ladies seem to get along better then the guys that just stick to themselves.
Strange dynamics in groups of more then one.
I'm not sure how to phrase it, but it's almost as if the women and men keep tabs on each other and try not to offend each other. Whereas, a mostly single-sex group tends to demonstrate the worst social aspects of that sex, and even gangs up on members.
+1. My experience as well, all females or all males can be insufferable. It is interesting to see how the group dynamic changes for the better when both sexes are represented.Mixed-sex groups tend to get along best, in my experience (real life as well as on-line interest forums). I've always been happier in a mixed-sex workplace, for example, than in one that was either all-female, or where I was the only female (which happened a few times, when I was starting out).
This forum strikes a balance between every other special interest forum - where people attack other posters and basically get away with it ..........Amethyst