The Heart Grows Smarter

[omni550]

Interesting article in today's NYT about the Grant Study (started in 1938) which predicts flourishing in all aspects of one's life based on one's capacity to form close relationships.

"In case after case, the magic formula is capacity for intimacy combined with persistence, discipline, order and dependability. The men who could be affectionate about people and organized about things had very enjoyable lives."

http://www.nytimes.com/2012/11/06/op...it_th_20121106

omni

[Chuckanut]

A good article and, I think, very true. Relationships become more important as one gets older. We start to realize that things like time and health are limited, most toys don't bring long-term satisfaction, and, while being alone can be a wonderful gift at times, being lonely is h**l on earth.

[RonBoyd]

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Originally Posted by Chuckanut most toys don't bring long-term sanctification,...

Interesting word choice. You mean my new camera isn't going to bring me closer to God? Well, doggoneit. Hmmmm... Or just in the Short-term?

Definition of Sanctification:

1: an act of sanctifying

2a: the state of being sanctified

b: the state of growing in divine grace as a result of Christian commitment after baptism or conversion

[Onward]

Interesting article. Thanks for posting.

[Chuckanut]

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Originally Posted by RonBoyd Interesting word choice. You mean my new camera isn't going to bring me closer to God? Well, doggoneit. Hmmmm... Or just in the Short-term? Definition of Sanctification: 1: an act of sanctifying 2a: the state of being sanctified b: the state of growing in divine grace as a result of Christian commitment after baptism or conversion

Dang spell checker!! It's the computer's fault! I have corrected the error in my message.

[eytonxav]

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Originally Posted by Chuckanut most toys don't bring long-term satosfaction,.

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Originally Posted by Chuckanut Dang spell checker!! It's the computer's fault! I have corrected the error in my message.

Or not

[HFWR]

I thought is was a malapropism, in the spirit of Slip Mahoney or Archie Bunker.

Or, as I often say, you're a veritable suppository of wisdom...

[pb4uski]

Reminds me of the Roseto Effect.

See 14_2 The Roseto Effect

[eytonxav]

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Originally Posted by HFWR I thought is was a malapropism, in the spirit of Slip Mahoney or Archie Bunker. Or, as I often say, you're a veritable suppository of wisdom...

Slip Mahoney and the Bowery Boys, that brings back memories

[RonBoyd]

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Originally Posted by HFWR I thought is was a malapropism, in the spirit of Slip Mahoney or Archie Bunker.

Or the absolute master:

Norm Crosby roasts Carroll O'Connor - YouTube

[omni550]

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Originally Posted by pb4uski Reminds me of the Roseto Effect. See 14_2 The Roseto Effect

Very interesting. Thanks for sharing, pb4uski.

omni

[Marathoner]

Thanks for posting this. I also have found this to be true in my life, so always nice to have my anecdotal thoughts backed up by a study!

[imoldernu]

Re: Roseto
Not quite the same, but the social aspects and warmth. I have strong recall of ages 3 to 15... 1940-1954, living in a Roseto type neighborhood. A textile town, where most worked in mills at one time or another.
I believe that I/we knew just about everyone with a 3/4 mile radius. Mixed Protestant, Catholic,Scotch, English, Irish, French, German. Single homes, and tenements mixed.
No self identification of rich, poor, or any thought of a social ladder. Hard working, many children and a general sense of community whereby, for kids anyway, every adult male or female was a mother or father for each and every kid. (Do something wrong and expect to be spanked by someone else's mother...plus the spanking waiting when you got home.)
The old, sick and senile were kept at home.
Comfortable, safe, non competitive and above all nurturing. A neighborhood in the very best sense of the word.
Any "downs" suffered by any family were lifted by the community as a whole... Loss of job, serious illness, or financial problems met by friends and neighbors.

The local "pubs" played a big part for the men of the community. A few beers after work was the norm. Made for a healthy relaxed friendship among the males in the community.

We (bride an self were childhood sweethearts) have stayed in touch with many childhood friends, and we all agree that it is not just looking through rose colored glasses, but a very close feeling of warm friendship.

Can't speak to the health aspects, but a neighborhood that encouraged community, self worth, and companionship. Part of the coming together may have been the sense of patriotism brought on by the shadow cast by WWII. Every person was aware of the "boys" "over there".