My wife and I live far away from home currently due to military service. My sister and her DH live back in our hometown where both my parents live (divorced). My Dad recently took my sister and her husband on a Jamaican vacation that we were told cost $3,000 for the two of them. My Dad paid for everything including airfare. We had been invited, but being in the military I didn't have an option. I didn't have the leave to use let alone the time to take the leave with our upcoming inspection. The same happened about a year ago where they took my sister and her husband on a cruise. They also recently took my step sister on a trip to Vegas.
I didn't say much about it and none of these instances bothered me too much. This past weekend my Dad and step mother came up to visit my wife and I, only a few weeks after getting back from their vacation. While here, we drove them all over the state to see different landmarks/parks and picked them up/ dropped them off at the airport. They stayed with us in our house and we provided groceries for a few meals. They didn't offer to pay for gas and we ended up paying for some expensive parking fees at a baseball game and downtown for a few other events. They paid for a couple meals but made a big deal of it and we covered all of our own meals after that. This really seemed strange since he buys my sister and her husband lunch/dinner at least weekly back home and he hasn't seen us in almost a year.
My sister and her husband earn a little more money than I do so it's not like they are struggling. My wife is unable to work at the moment as we just moved to a new state and is trying to find new employment. My Dad knows, or should know, money is tight with us as we are trying to save for airfare back home for Christmas and pay down student loans and prepare to have a child as we alluded to many times when he was here and prior to him coming.
I really hope I'm not coming off petty, but doesn't this seem unbalanced? My wife and I enjoy being self sufficient and not living off anyone else, but it's hard to not notice the discrepancy. Any other guests that come to stay with us, I wouldn't expect anything (not even gas money) for shuttling them around. But after he takes them on 2 expensive vacations and buys them meals weekly, I thought at least he could cover a tank of gas for us while he visited. This has turned more into a rant than anything, but has anybody else had experiences like this? Again I hate coming off petty, but this bothered me this weekend.
I didn't say much about it and none of these instances bothered me too much. This past weekend my Dad and step mother came up to visit my wife and I, only a few weeks after getting back from their vacation. While here, we drove them all over the state to see different landmarks/parks and picked them up/ dropped them off at the airport. They stayed with us in our house and we provided groceries for a few meals. They didn't offer to pay for gas and we ended up paying for some expensive parking fees at a baseball game and downtown for a few other events. They paid for a couple meals but made a big deal of it and we covered all of our own meals after that. This really seemed strange since he buys my sister and her husband lunch/dinner at least weekly back home and he hasn't seen us in almost a year.
My sister and her husband earn a little more money than I do so it's not like they are struggling. My wife is unable to work at the moment as we just moved to a new state and is trying to find new employment. My Dad knows, or should know, money is tight with us as we are trying to save for airfare back home for Christmas and pay down student loans and prepare to have a child as we alluded to many times when he was here and prior to him coming.
I really hope I'm not coming off petty, but doesn't this seem unbalanced? My wife and I enjoy being self sufficient and not living off anyone else, but it's hard to not notice the discrepancy. Any other guests that come to stay with us, I wouldn't expect anything (not even gas money) for shuttling them around. But after he takes them on 2 expensive vacations and buys them meals weekly, I thought at least he could cover a tank of gas for us while he visited. This has turned more into a rant than anything, but has anybody else had experiences like this? Again I hate coming off petty, but this bothered me this weekend.