http://www.early-retirement.org/forums/f30/how-much-for-daughters-wedding-41296.html
Not wanting to hijack the above thread, I'm starting this one.
My daughter is 21 yo, my son is 20. So, I have been visualizing them getting they own family in the not-too-distant future. 2 "issues" came to mind.
1) Is it still the tradition for the bride family to pay for the wedding? I don't like that tradition at all. Ideally, I think the cost should be split among the involved parties: 1/3 bride & groom, 1/3 bride parents, 1/3 groom parents. I intend to tell my two kids this summer that I will contribute 1/3 of the wedding cost, up to 10K. Bad or good idea?
2) What is the proper wedding gift nowadays? The common practice in the Vietnamese community in the USA is CASH in an envelope. The actual amount is whatever necessary to cover the cost of the reception. So if you are invited to a super fancy reception, then figure about $100/person. $75 for fancy and $50 for normal reception. The idea is to come and share the joy with the newly married couple without creating a financial burden to them. Is this something practiced in this country? If not, what is it?
Sam
Not wanting to hijack the above thread, I'm starting this one.
My daughter is 21 yo, my son is 20. So, I have been visualizing them getting they own family in the not-too-distant future. 2 "issues" came to mind.
1) Is it still the tradition for the bride family to pay for the wedding? I don't like that tradition at all. Ideally, I think the cost should be split among the involved parties: 1/3 bride & groom, 1/3 bride parents, 1/3 groom parents. I intend to tell my two kids this summer that I will contribute 1/3 of the wedding cost, up to 10K. Bad or good idea?
2) What is the proper wedding gift nowadays? The common practice in the Vietnamese community in the USA is CASH in an envelope. The actual amount is whatever necessary to cover the cost of the reception. So if you are invited to a super fancy reception, then figure about $100/person. $75 for fancy and $50 for normal reception. The idea is to come and share the joy with the newly married couple without creating a financial burden to them. Is this something practiced in this country? If not, what is it?
Sam