weird stuff

[Bigdawg]

Two things that have come across as strange to me over that past decade. First of all is people going by their middle names. I moved to MD 11 years ago at age 43. Up until that point of my life I had maybe met 5 people who went by their middle name vice their given first name. In my 11 years in MD I have come across roughly 75 people (at least) that go by their middle name. Weird!

The other thing I have noticed that seems strange to me is relationships where the lady is older than the man. In the 3-4 hundred people I am friends/acquainted with I know 2-3 couples where the female is older than the male. I haven't taken a poll or checked to see if there was one on here but there seems to be many couple on ER.org where the DW is older than the DH.

I found the below data on google search.

Age difference Percentage of all married couples
Husband 20+ years older than wife
1.0
Husband 15–19 years older than wife
1.6
Husband 10–14 years older than wife
4.8
Husband 6–9 years older than wife
11.6
Husband 4–5 years older than wife
13.3
Husband 2–3 years older than wife
20.4
Husband and wife within 1 year
33.2
Wife 2–3 years older than husband
6.5
Wife 4–5 years older than husband
3.3
Wife 6–9 years older than husband
2.7
Wife 10–14 years older than husband
1.0
Wife 15–19 years older than husband
0.3
Wife 20+ years older than husband
0.3

[Nemo2]

The names and ages aside.....the thing I find weird is that someone could have 3-400 'friends'...wow.

[Boho]

Here are new stats for 2017. Skip to "Age Difference" in first column to see the lastest stats for what OP is talking about. This comes from this spreadsheet. For more 2017 stats see America’s Families and Living Arrangements: 2017.

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Table FG3. Married Couple Family Groups, by Presence of Own Children ¹ Under 18, and Age, Earnings, Education, and Race and Hispanic Origin ² of Both Spouses: 2017 (Numbers in thousands, except for percentages) For more information about ASEC, including the source and accuracy statement, see the technical documentation accessible at: http://www2.census.gov/programs-surv...s/cpsmar17.pdf All Married Couples All Married Couples   Without Own Children Under 18   With Own Children Under 18                           N % N % N %     ALL MARRIED COUPLES 63,325 100.0 38,860 100.0 24,465 100.0     .AGE OF HUSBAND                 ..Under 20 years 52 0.1 41 0.1 11 0.0     ..20-24 years 847 1.3 448 1.2 398 1.6     ..25-29 years 3,002 4.7 1,326 3.4 1,677 6.9     ..30-34 years 5,101 8.1 1,527 3.9 3,574 14.6     ..35-39 years 6,128 9.7 1,210 3.1 4,919 20.1     ..40-44 years 6,235 9.8 1,282 3.3 4,953 20.2     ..45-49 years 6,437 10.2 2,238 5.8 4,199 17.2     ..50-54 years 6,794 10.7 4,137 10.6 2,657 10.9     ..55-64 years 13,267 21.0 11,540 29.7 1,728 7.1     ..65-74 years 9,888 15.6 9,624 24.8 264 1.1     ..75+ years 5,574 8.8 5,487 14.1 87 0.4     .AGE OF WIFE                 ..Under 20 years 80 0.1 50 0.1 30 0.1     ..20-24 years 1,331 2.1 642 1.7 689 2.8     ..25-29 years 4,113 6.5 1,669 4.3 2,443 10.0     ..30-34 years 5,875 9.3 1,502 3.9 4,373 17.9     ..35-39 years 6,463 10.2 1,060 2.7 5,403 22.1     ..40-44 years 6,234 9.8 1,474 3.8 4,760 19.5     ..45-49 years 6,903 10.9 2,974 7.7 3,929 16.1     ..50-54 years 6,764 10.7 4,882 12.6 1,882 7.7     ..55-64 years 13,150 20.8 12,393 31.9 757 3.1     ..65-74 years 8,662 13.7 8,529 21.9 134 0.5     ..75+ years 3,749 5.9 3,684 9.5 65 0.3     .AGE DIFFERENCE                 ..Husband 20+ years older than wife 655 1.0 395 1.0 260 1.1     ..Husband 15-19 years older than wife 999 1.6 612 1.6 386 1.6     ..Husband 10-14 years older than wife 3,154 5.0 1,937 5.0 1,217 5.0     ..Husband 6-9 years older than wife 7,098 11.2 4,197 10.8 2,901 11.9     ..Husband 4-5 years older than wife 8,127 12.8 5,057 13.0 3,070 12.5     ..Husband 2-3 years older than wife 12,387 19.6 7,434 19.1 4,953 20.2     ..Husband and wife within 1 year 21,448 33.9 13,164 33.9 8,284 33.9     ..Wife 2-3 years older than husband 4,391 6.9 2,634 6.8 1,757 7.2     ..Wife 4-5 years older than husband 2,154 3.4 1,403 3.6 750 3.1     ..Wife 6-9 years older than husband 1,765 2.8 1,175 3.0 590 2.4     ..Wife 10-14 years older than husband 679 1.1 508 1.3 171 0.7     ..Wife 15-19 years older than husband 191 0.3 146 0.4 45 0.2     ..Wife 20+ years older than husband 278 0.4 198 0.5 80 0.3     .RACE OF HUSBAND                 ..White alone - Non-Hispanic 44,355 70.0 29,305 75.4 15,050 61.5     ..Black alone - Non-Hispanic 4,796 7.6 2,861 7.4 1,935 7.9     ..Hispanic² 9,005 14.2 4,033 10.4 4,972 20.3     ..All remaining single races and all race combinations, non-Hispanic 5,169 8.2 2,660 6.8 2,508 10.3     .RACE OF WIFE                 ..White alone - Non-Hispanic 43,686 69.0 28,855 74.3 14,831 60.6     ..Black alone - Non-Hispanic 4,403 7.0 2,681 6.9 1,722 7.0     ..Hispanic² 9,398 14.8 4,254 10.9 5,145 21.0     ..All remaining single races and all race combinations, non-Hispanic 5,838 9.2 3,070 7.9 2,767 11.3     .RACE DIFFERENCE³                 ..Both White alone - not-Hispanic 41,466 65.5 27,719 71.3 13,746 56.2     ..Both Black alone - not-Hispanic 4,095 6.5 2,519 6.5 1,576 6.4     ..Both Hispanic 7,624 12.0 3,358 8.6 4,266 17.4     ..Both Other alone or any combination - not-Hispanic 4,317 6.8 2,208 5.7 2,109 8.6     ..Husband White alone - not Hisp., wife Black alone not-Hisp. 172 0.3 89 0.2 83 0.3     ..Husband White alone - not Hisp., wife Hispanic 1,478 2.3 770 2.0 708 2.9     ..Husband White alone not-Hisp., wife Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp. 1,239 2.0 727 1.9 512 2.1     ..Husband Black alone not-Hisp., wife White alone not-Hisp. 409 0.6 190 0.5 219 0.9     ..Husband Black alone not-Hisp., wife Hispanic 162 0.3 70 0.2 91 0.4     ..Husband Black alone not-Hisp., wife Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp. 130 0.2 81 0.2 49 0.2     ..Husband Hispanic, wife White alone not-Hisp. 1,147 1.8 576 1.5 570 2.3     ..Husband Hispanic, wife Black alone not-Hisp. 82 0.1 45 0.1 38 0.2     ..Husband Hispanic, wife Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp. 151 0.2 54 0.1 97 0.4     ..Husband Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp., wife White alone not-Hisp. 664 1.0 369 1.0 295 1.2     ..Husband Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp., wife Black alone not-Hisp. 53 0.1 27 0.1 26 0.1     ..Husband Other alone or any comb. not-Hisp., wife Hispanic 134 0.2 55 0.1 79 0.3     .RACE OF HUSBAND                 ..White alone 52,612 83.1 33,038 85.0 19,574 80.0     ..Black alone 5,088 8.0 2,991 7.7 2,097 8.6     ..Asian alone 4,179 6.6 2,092 5.4 2,087 8.5     ..All remaining single races and all race combinations 1,446 2.3 739 1.9 707 2.9     .RACE OF WIFE                 ..White alone 52,270 82.5 32,759 84.3 19,511 79.8     ..Black alone 4,723 7.5 2,825 7.3 1,898 7.8     ..Asian alone 4,760 7.5 2,461 6.3 2,300 9.4     ..All remaining single races and all race combinations 1,571 2.5 815 2.1 756 3.1     .RACE DIFFERENCE⁴                 ..Both White alone 51,005 80.5 32,126 82.7 18,879 77.2     ..Both Black alone 4,452 7.0 2,686 6.9 1,766 7.2     ..Both Asian alone 3,919 6.2 1,983 5.1 1,935 7.9     ..Both Other alone or any comb. 794 1.3 356 0.9 437 1.8     ..Male White alone, female Black alone 205 0.3 104 0.3 101 0.4     ..Male White alone, female Asian alone 738 1.2 417 1.1 321 1.3     ..Male White alone, female Other alone or any comb. 665 1.0 391 1.0 273 1.1     ..Male Black alone, female White alone 490 0.8 217 0.6 274 1.1     ..Male Black alone, female Asian alone 55 0.1 33 0.1 22 0.1     ..Male Black alone, female Other alone or any comb. 91 0.1 55 0.1 36 0.1     ..Male Asian alone, female White alone 222 0.3 92 0.2 130 0.5     ..Male Asian alone, female Black alone 17 0.0 5 0.0 12 0.0     ..Male Asian alone, female Other alone or any comb. 22 0.0 12 0.0 10 0.0     ..Male Other alone or any comb., female White alone 554 0.9 324 0.8 229 0.9     ..Male Other alone or any comb., female Black alone 50 0.1 31 0.1 20 0.1     ..Male Other alone or any comb., female Asian alone 49 0.1 27 0.1 21 0.1     .ORIGIN OF HUSBAND                 ..Non-Hispanic 54,320 85.8 34,827 89.6 19,494 79.7     ..Hispanic² 9,005 14.2 4,033 10.4 4,972 20.3     .ORIGIN OF WIFE                 ..Non-Hispanic 53,927 85.2 34,606 89.1 19,320 79.0     ..Hispanic² 9,398 14.8 4,254 10.9 5,145 21.0     .ORIGIN DIFFERENCE²                 ..Neither Hispanic 52,546 83.0 33,931 87.3 18,615 76.1     ..Both Hispanic 7,624 12.0 3,358 8.6 4,266 17.4     ..Male Hispanic, female not 1,380 2.2 675 1.7 705 2.9     ..Female Hispanic, male not 1,774 2.8 896 2.3 878 3.6     .EDUCATION OF HUSBAND                 ..Not high school graduate 6,040 9.5 3,696 9.5 2,344 9.6     ..High school graduate 17,525 27.7 11,601 29.9 5,924 24.2     ..Some college 15,652 24.7 9,577 24.6 6,075 24.8     ..Bachelor's degree or higher 24,108 38.1 13,986 36.0 10,122 41.4     .EDUCATION OF WIFE                 ..Not high school graduate 5,142 8.1 3,070 7.9 2,072 8.5     ..High school graduate 16,829 26.6 11,970 30.8 4,860 19.9     ..Some college 16,908 26.7 10,529 27.1 6,379 26.1     ..Bachelor's degree or higher 24,445 38.6 13,291 34.2 11,154 45.6     .EDUCATION DIFFERENCE                 ..Neither has Bachelor's degree 31,891 50.4 20,762 53.4 11,129 45.5     ..One has Bachelor's degree, other has less 14,315 22.6 8,918 22.9 5,397 22.1     ..Both have Bachelor's degree or more 17,119 27.0 9,179 23.6 7,940 32.5     .PERSONAL EARNINGS OF HUSBAND                 ..Under $5,000 or loss 16,901 26.7 15,103 38.9 1,798 7.3     ..$5,000 to $9,999 1,079 1.7 751 1.9 328 1.3     ..$10,000 to $14,999 1,388 2.2 850 2.2 538 2.2     ..$15,000 to $19,999 1,763 2.8 970 2.5 793 3.2     ..$20,000 to $24,999 2,200 3.5 1,162 3.0 1,037 4.2     ..$25,000 to $29,999 2,222 3.5 1,131 2.9 1,091 4.5     ..$30,000 to $39,999 5,565 8.8 2,895 7.5 2,670 10.9     ..$40,000 to $49,999 5,280 8.3 2,693 6.9 2,587 10.6     ..$50,000 to $74,999 10,619 16.8 5,494 14.1 5,126 21.0     ..$75,000 to $99,999 6,093 9.6 2,983 7.7 3,110 12.7     ..$100,000 and over 10,214 16.1 4,827 12.4 5,387 22.0     .PERSONAL EARNINGS OF WIFE                 ..Under $5,000 or loss 27,061 42.7 18,777 48.3 8,284 33.9     ..$5,000 to $9,999 2,019 3.2 1,068 2.7 951 3.9     ..$10,000 to $14,999 2,630 4.2 1,443 3.7 1,187 4.9     ..$15,000 to $19,999 2,697 4.3 1,459 3.8 1,238 5.1     ..$20,000 to $24,999 3,068 4.8 1,722 4.4 1,347 5.5     ..$25,000 to $29,999 2,733 4.3 1,677 4.3 1,057 4.3     ..$30,000 to $39,999 5,570 8.8 3,262 8.4 2,308 9.4     ..$40,000 to $49,999 4,480 7.1 2,471 6.4 2,009 8.2     ..$50,000 to $74,999 6,726 10.6 3,544 9.1 3,182 13.0     ..$75,000 to $99,999 3,071 4.8 1,664 4.3 1,406 5.7     ..$100,000 and over 3,269 5.2 1,772 4.6 1,497 6.1     .PERSONAL EARNINGS DIFFERENCE                 ..Husband earns $50,000+ more 15,256 24.1 7,293 18.8 7,963 32.6     ..Husband earns $30,000-$49,999 more 7,560 11.9 3,847 9.9 3,713 15.2     ..Husband earns $10,000-$29,999 more 9,383 14.8 4,787 12.3 4,596 18.8     ..Husband earns $5,000-$9,999 more 2,265 3.6 1,265 3.3 999 4.1     ..Husband earns within $4,999 of wife 15,976 25.2 13,487 34.7 2,489 10.2     ..Wife earns $5,000-$9,999 more 1,704 2.7 988 2.5 716 2.9     ..Wife earns $10,000-$29,999 more 4,936 7.8 3,120 8.0 1,816 7.4     ..Wife earns $30,000-$49,999 more 2,810 4.4 1,835 4.7 975 4.0     ..Wife earns $50,000+ more 3,434 5.4 2,237 5.8 1,198 4.9     Footnotes: 1. Excludes ever-married children under 18 years. 2. Hispanics may be of any race. 3. "White" refers to Non-Hispanic White alone, "Black" to Non-Hispanic Black alone, and "Other" to Non-Hispanic Other alone or any race combination. 4. Race is regardless of Hispanic origin. Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Current Population Survey, 2017 Annual Social and Economic Supplement Internet Release Date: November 2017

[Bigdawg]

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Originally Posted by Nemo2 The names and ages aside.....the thing I find weird is that someone could have 3-400 'friends'...wow.

"3-4 hundred people I am friends/acquainted with"

Hmm, I find it weird that you don't know, are friends with or are in some way shape or form associated with 300-400 people.

Or maybe you just happen to put on your grammar police hat today.

[harley]

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Originally Posted by Bigdawg Hmm, I find it weird that you don't know, are friends with or are in some way shape or form associated with 300-400 people.

Well, I certainly don't. I have 68 FB friends, and probably 1/3 of them are bands/musicians or interest groups who's feeds I follow on the rare occasion I sign on. Real friends and relations that I keep in real touch with (to the extent of knowing their spouse's age and whether they use their middle name) probably number less than 30. Of course, I am an introvert and really don't like or care about people very much.

The majority of people I associate with on a regular basis are on this board, and I only know a few of their real names. And unless they list it I have no idea of their ages.

[easysurfer]

Not picking on someone's height, but I find uncommon when seeing the wife taller than the husband. Like with Nicole Kidman with both Tom Cruise, then Keith Urban.

[Nemo2]

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Originally Posted by Bigdawg "3-4 hundred people I am friends/acquainted with" Hmm, I find it weird that you don't know, are friends with or are in some way shape or form associated with 300-400 people. Or maybe you just happen to put on your grammar police hat today.

No grammar police....it's just that I'm an anonymous individual that everyone hates.

(But I am a 4.8%'er.)

[grasshopper]

Back in Maryland in the 70's I had 3 other roomies that all went by their middle name. I went by my initials no first name. My BIL came to a party at our home once and asked about me by my given name and no one knew who I was.

[tmm99]

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Originally Posted by easysurfer Not picking on someone's height, but I find uncommon when seeing the wife taller than the husband. Like with Nicole Kidman with both Tom Cruise, then Keith Urban.

Nicole Kidman is almost 6ft. so if she tried to find someone taller, it would definitely limit her pick.

[prudent_one]

I have a childhood friend who was badly behaved when much younger, he now goes by his middle name after moving to a new town. His new friends, neighbors and co-workers can't find his earlier misdeeds if they decide to research him on the internet. Maybe that's a thing these days.

[Mr. Tightwad]

I'm 6'1". The women I date are always shorter.
I'm white. 99% of the women I date are Latina.
I'm 57. I've dated as much as 35 years younger than me, and as little as 17 years (My current GF). I have never been attracted to older women.

And by the word "date" I mean the modern dating. When I was young, dating meant taking her out, courtship, etc. Dating has evolved to what many call "Netflix and chill" ( I dislike the term). Basically hanging out, movies, etc, but none of the wining and dining from the old days. Yesterday was a trip to Costco (we got to enter without waiting in line due to her being in healthcare, that was a first for me), a movie, a walk, etc. It was my turn to pay for the to go food. But my point is, blowing all that dough on "dating" is mostly extinct. I blew a lot of dough in my 20's, regretfully.

[pdxgal]

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Originally Posted by easysurfer Not picking on someone's height, but I find uncommon when seeing the wife taller than the husband. Like with Nicole Kidman with both Tom Cruise, then Keith Urban.

IMO that IS pretty unusual. Several reasons: 1) statistically many men are taller than women, 2) some men aren't comfortable being shorter than a female partner due to emotional insecurity or other reasons, 3) some women aren't comfortable with being with a shorter man.

My sister and I both got husbands shorter than us My sister's DHis younger, too.

[Amethyst]

Well, if a woman is even somewhat taller than average, and wears any kind of heels, she is automatically taller than an awful lot of men. And the funny thing is, shorter men seem to love tall women.

It always seemed to me that the taller men went for quite small women (I always thought, naughtily, of a Great Dane going after a Chihuahua, and wondered how they managed).

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Originally Posted by easysurfer Not picking on someone's height, but I find uncommon when seeing the wife taller than the husband. Like with Nicole Kidman with both Tom Cruise, then Keith Urban.

[harley]

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Originally Posted by Mr. Tightwad I'm 57. I've dated as much as 35 years younger than me

I hope that's only been in the past 5 or so years.

[W2R]

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Originally Posted by Bigdawg Two things that have come across as strange to me over that past decade. First of all is people going by their middle names. [...] The other thing I have noticed that seems strange to me is relationships where the lady is older than the man.

MIDDLE NAME: F is a widower and his wife died over two decades ago, about a year before we met. She had the same first name as me. So, I have always gone by my middle name for his extended family and for him, to avoid confusion. Everyone else calls me by my first name.

AGE: I am six years older than F (and around five inches taller than him, although I know you didn't ask). This hasn't been a big deal to us or anybody else.

[Mr. Tightwad]

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Originally Posted by harley I hope that's only been in the past 5 or so years.

When I wrote that I wondered if I should clarify that. Absolutely. Last 4 years actually.

[f35phixer]

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Originally Posted by Bigdawg Two things that have come across as strange to me over that past decade. First of all is people going by their middle names. I moved to MD 11 years ago at age 43. Up until that point of my life I had maybe met 5 people who went by their middle name vice their given first name. In my 11 years in MD I have come across roughly 75 people (at least) that go by their middle name. Weird! The other thing I have noticed that seems strange to me is relationships where the lady is older than the man. In the 3-4 hundred people I am friends/acquainted with I know 2-3 couples where the female is older than the male. I haven't taken a poll or checked to see if there was one on here but there seems to be many couple on ER.org where the DW is older than the DH. I found the below data on google search. Age difference Percentage of all married couples Husband 20+ years older than wife 1.0 Husband 15–19 years older than wife 1.6 Husband 10–14 years older than wife 4.8 Husband 6–9 years older than wife 11.6 Husband 4–5 years older than wife 13.3 Husband 2–3 years older than wife 20.4 Husband and wife within 1 year 33.2 Wife 2–3 years older than husband 6.5 Wife 4–5 years older than husband 3.3 Wife 6–9 years older than husband 2.7 Wife 10–14 years older than husband 1.0 Wife 15–19 years older than husband 0.3 Wife 20+ years older than husband 0.3

You are in SOUTHERN MD Dawg, it’s the locals probably!!!! yes we have 3-5 hundred acquaintance where we both work Dawg!!!! Hope you are well and safe, I have been teleworking for month, suxs.

[Stormy Kromer]

I believe the use of the middle name is a regional thing, being much more common the further south you go in the US.


DW is 4 years older than me. I was almost 30 when we met, I think the age gap between couples narrows as you age and people are getting married at a later age these days.

[LRDave]

I am 21 months older than DW. So which group do we belong in?? seems like the 1-2 years difference group is missing.

[UnrealizedPotential]

Maybe in MD some parents give their children weird names and so when those children grow up to become adults they choose the most tolerable of those names and then go by that.