Spouses can privately tell each other when one is wrong in private, but
NOT in public?
Even in private can be hazardous. These things must be done delicately...
https://youtu.be/HouZ5GHxlpQ?t=64
I don't enjoy it when others are wrong, especially when they are discussing my areas of expertise. My INTJ personality itches to correct them. I have trained myself to respond carefully in order to minimize social opprobrium. "Really! I didn't know that! Can you share the reference? I'd like to look at those data." Often, they have no data to share except "well, somebody said it last week" or "I read it in a magazine". ...
It helps to avoid "trapping someone in a corner" - you want to leave them an out (like you did in your example). I forget this sometimes, but it does help.
I've managed to remember, and say things like "That sounds right, but I heard something contrary to that the other day, maybe the source I heard got it wrong, but what they said was ...".
That way, I think they are drawn in and listening. If you start with a straight contradiction, it seems many people will just shut their minds to the rest of what you say.
I hope to get to practice this in the near future. I had a conversation with someone who was emotionally anti-GMO and used all sorts of lousy and contradictory 'logic' to make her point. If I get the chance, what I plan to do is to turn it around and say something like -
" Hey, I know this stuff concerns you, and I'd like to make a positive suggestion on how you can better influence people to help them see your viewpoint. First, you need to be careful to use solid arguments, use logic that fits the scenario, and use better arguments than 'you must work for Monsanto', as that is an ad hominem attack, and will be seen as a losing statement, and offend anyone on the other side".
Then I plan to outline why the arguments she was using fail - but in a positive way, like
"OK, can we find a better argument than your A, B, C, because A has this flaw, B has this other flaw, and C actually applies to standard hybrids, not GMO so it actually works against you", etc.
I think that could be interesting. Of course, while phrasing it all positively, I'll be pointing out the problems in each of her arguments. I doubt she'll be left with anything, and it
might have some impact with her.
BTW, I don't mean to turn this thread onto a GMO/GE debate. Those are 'fun', but I don't think the OP wants that intrusion here.
-ERD50