FinanceDude
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DW works with a very nice lady, and they have become friends. This lady is quite frugal, and had to be since she went through a nasty divorce years back and had to raise the kids herself, with little help as the husband was a mess.
She started dating a much older man 3 years ago (she's 53 today, he's 70). He begged her over and over to get married, and finally with some reservations, she agreed. She sold her condo, which was affordable and had 50% equity in it, and moved to his fairly large house in an upscale neighborhood. Almost immediately, the financial arguments started.
Turns out the 70-year old has almost no retirement assets. He has been divorced twice, and those experiences cost plenty. Plus, he loves "toys" and expensive vacations and such. What floored me is this guy owned his own CPA firm, and had worked as a financial advisor for several years. He is still working because they need the money.
If he dies or becomes disabled, they will lose the house, as her income isn't enough to make the payments. His wife wants to roll in her equity from the condo, and then refinance their house to get lower payments and interest, and to make the payments affordable should something happen to him, and he refuses. He doesn't have any disability insurance, life insurance, etc. He still works as a CPA doing taxes and such, and makes a good living.
She is peppering DW with questions about what to do. Her husband is in total denial. She wants to build up her savings, invest for HER retirement, etc, as she knows she will probably outlive him by a significant amount. He has an irregular heartbeat but is overall in good health. It's a real trick bag.
What a mess.............
She started dating a much older man 3 years ago (she's 53 today, he's 70). He begged her over and over to get married, and finally with some reservations, she agreed. She sold her condo, which was affordable and had 50% equity in it, and moved to his fairly large house in an upscale neighborhood. Almost immediately, the financial arguments started.
Turns out the 70-year old has almost no retirement assets. He has been divorced twice, and those experiences cost plenty. Plus, he loves "toys" and expensive vacations and such. What floored me is this guy owned his own CPA firm, and had worked as a financial advisor for several years. He is still working because they need the money.
If he dies or becomes disabled, they will lose the house, as her income isn't enough to make the payments. His wife wants to roll in her equity from the condo, and then refinance their house to get lower payments and interest, and to make the payments affordable should something happen to him, and he refuses. He doesn't have any disability insurance, life insurance, etc. He still works as a CPA doing taxes and such, and makes a good living.
She is peppering DW with questions about what to do. Her husband is in total denial. She wants to build up her savings, invest for HER retirement, etc, as she knows she will probably outlive him by a significant amount. He has an irregular heartbeat but is overall in good health. It's a real trick bag.
What a mess.............