toofrugalformycat
Full time employment: Posting here.
Congratulations! You've taken a big step towards actual communication with your spouse. That must have been a scary conversation. You have guts.Well, I think we have come to a mutual agreement, at least temporarily..
Most important IMHO, you have taken responsibility as an adult for your own life choices. Caroline's post spelled it out best.
You're an inspiration to me.
And having seen the other side of divorce from a child's perspective, financially the male thrives (continued high income, rebuild assets easily), the female flounders (very hard to restart a career with a childrearing gap in there). So those laws are there for a reason.
But no one wins, and the kids lose the most.
If things get bad again, I agree with other posters, get thee to counseling.