DangerMouse
Thinks s/he gets paid by the post
I'm a bit late to the party, and I am not big on giving marital advice to people I don't really know. My comments are as follows:
(1) The grass is not always greener on the other side. If you trade out this wife there is a good chance you will remarry and end up in the same situation 10 years down the track with absolutely no chance of RE.
(2) Don't go thinking if your wife goes back to work life will be wonderful because you will have all that extra money coming in. Speaking from personal experience I can tell you your life will be become much more complicated. I went back to work 2 years ago and DH and I agree it was the worst thing I ever did even though we don't have kids. We gave away in effect our free time, as now we both rush around to do paperwork go grocery shopping in the few hours we have off.
(3) I do agree with some of what you say that kids don't appreciate the value of money. I think in many cases parents give their kids everything because of some perceived shortfall in their own childhood.
(4) I think all you really need to do is reconnect with your wife. Start date night once a week. Nominate a day and there is no excuse for either of you to make yourself unavailable. Go out for dinner, go to the movies, spend time together talking about everything but the kids. So many adults make the choice to put their kids first and forget about their spouses. Before anyone jumps on me for this comment, I am not suggesting neglecting the kids whilst the parents go out partying every night, but spend some time on your relationship.
(1) The grass is not always greener on the other side. If you trade out this wife there is a good chance you will remarry and end up in the same situation 10 years down the track with absolutely no chance of RE.
(2) Don't go thinking if your wife goes back to work life will be wonderful because you will have all that extra money coming in. Speaking from personal experience I can tell you your life will be become much more complicated. I went back to work 2 years ago and DH and I agree it was the worst thing I ever did even though we don't have kids. We gave away in effect our free time, as now we both rush around to do paperwork go grocery shopping in the few hours we have off.
(3) I do agree with some of what you say that kids don't appreciate the value of money. I think in many cases parents give their kids everything because of some perceived shortfall in their own childhood.
(4) I think all you really need to do is reconnect with your wife. Start date night once a week. Nominate a day and there is no excuse for either of you to make yourself unavailable. Go out for dinner, go to the movies, spend time together talking about everything but the kids. So many adults make the choice to put their kids first and forget about their spouses. Before anyone jumps on me for this comment, I am not suggesting neglecting the kids whilst the parents go out partying every night, but spend some time on your relationship.