401kmart is the savings place
I'm currently at $435k in my retirement accounts...
...Am i really as far behind as I feel?
I can't comment on how you feel, but if it's any consolation you're miles ahead of where I was at 47. I was a paycheck-to-paycheck guy for 20 years before getting serious with retirement planning. I'm now streaking toward 60 and expect to be in position to FIRE in December.
I will, however, offer an observation about savings. Based on my own life experience, having amassed approximately thirty four cents, two slugs and a bottle cap by age 42, a critical element in my later financial story was that the money needed to be invisible and unreachable.
Invisibility via automatic deductions meant it never showed up in my paycheck. Instead of having to deliberately impose painful cuts to the household budget (which might have caused friction in our storybook marriage) our p-to-p lifestyle adapted itself to what was in the bank.
Depositing the savings into tax-deferred vehicles, with their concomitant restrictions on early withdrawals, meant that we were strongly discouraged from reaching into the retirement pile to meet The Big Nonrecurring Expense (BNE) when it would show up.
Surely you've seen The BNE: heat pump craps out, car dies, unscheduled medical bill, etc. It attacks without warning, and demands immediate attention, i.e., $$.
BNEs are particularly pernicious, since they wear the camouflage of legitimacy. They aren't extravagances; who could possibly argue that repairing a leaky roof is wasteful? Or that replacing the water heater which is busily turning your basement into an indoor pool wouldn't be a wise thing to do?
But you must resist the temptation to raid your retirement to fund the BNE. However you do it, you need to keep your RE kitty out of reach. Add a line item to your budget for BNE accruals, build an emergency fund, lock up your IRA statement in a safe... whatever you do, just make sure you leave the long term savings alone so they can grow.
Good luck!