Sorry for your loss, Badger.
Just because you are designated as the executor doesn't mean you have the authority to immediately liquidate funds or otherwise move money around. Here in WA you have to:
1) Wait for the death certificate to be issued -- in our mom's case that took several days
2) File the will -- that took a couple more weeks in our case because mom neglected to have certain language in it so the lawyers we chose had to petition the court to have it recognized
3) Obtain the letters testimentary that confirm who the executor is -- only after she got THESE could my sister (the executor) close down mom's old accounts and open the estate accounts.
Process is probably different in different states, but in any event I think the expectation that the BIL in this case can make immediate changes to the accounts is a bit presumptuous.
I would personally try to be less involved/worked up about it. Let the process work itself out. Yes, it would have been nice if everything could have been liquidated when the markets were at their peak, but isn't worth the stressing over too much at your net worth levels.
Just because you are designated as the executor doesn't mean you have the authority to immediately liquidate funds or otherwise move money around. Here in WA you have to:
1) Wait for the death certificate to be issued -- in our mom's case that took several days
2) File the will -- that took a couple more weeks in our case because mom neglected to have certain language in it so the lawyers we chose had to petition the court to have it recognized
3) Obtain the letters testimentary that confirm who the executor is -- only after she got THESE could my sister (the executor) close down mom's old accounts and open the estate accounts.
Process is probably different in different states, but in any event I think the expectation that the BIL in this case can make immediate changes to the accounts is a bit presumptuous.
I would personally try to be less involved/worked up about it. Let the process work itself out. Yes, it would have been nice if everything could have been liquidated when the markets were at their peak, but isn't worth the stressing over too much at your net worth levels.