Originally Posted by DustyMom
My question is related, but about the purging process of downsizing. How did you get rid of all your stuff? I am starting the process of purging and I keep getting hung up on thinking that I should try to get some money for some of the better "stuff". Have tried online selling with limited success and am starting to think it is not worth the aggravation. Do NOT want to have a yard/garage sale (can't stand the idea of watching people pick through my little treasures). I have no problem donating stuff and regularly schedule pickups when charities have trucks in my neighborhood. I think it's my frugal brain, which got me to ER in the first place, that keeps thinking "but it's worth something"! I've thought about an estate sale, consignment, but it seems like a lot of trouble and in the grand scheme of things, any $'s made would be insignificant (assuming I've planned as well as I think I have).
How can I retrain my brain to think it's OK to just give it all away?
One way would be cleaning out the home/possessions of an elder.
Having to paw through and dispose of all their junk, er, I mean "valued collectibles" will darn near turn you into a minimalist. Especially if you have to do it in conjunction with a deadline like paying rent on the apartment or selling their home.
My spouse and I dumped 4500 pounds (four plywood crates) of our personal property on our daughter. If your adult children are willing to pay for the shipping expenses, then they can have it for free! In our case it was our daughter's military home-of-record move to her first duty station, so when she arrived she had the full kitchen gear + furniture to set herself up.
When we visit her, it feels a little weird to see "my stuff" scattered around the bedroom and living room and kitchen. But I know it's in a good home.
Two other modern challenges are books and LP vinyl record albums.
Three years ago I went through all of my books, some of which I'd dragged around for four decades. (Tropical humidity, mold, and critters were wreaking havoc on the collection.) I gave a few hardbacks to the library, but I donated the rest to Goodwill. Before I hauled them away I entered the book name/author in a spreadsheet so that I could "replace" it with an eBook on my iPad Kindle app. However there's lots of new books out there every month and I've only bought one or two eBooks of my old collection.
I researched the LPs on eBay ("completed auctions") and learned that the vast majority were worth $5 or less. I hauled two egg crates of them to our local independent record dealer, hung out in a coffee shop for 90 minutes while he appraised all 180+ of them, and cashed his $150 check. Once again I have the LPs on a spreadsheet so that I can replace the tracks via iTunes, but there's a lot of new music out there. I haven't made the time to track down the 2-3 dozen albums that I was really reluctant to part with.