While admitting I am far from perfect, and far from a perfect husband as well, this is funny. I needed a good laugh.
When I met my wife, she earned less than half of what I made (I am an engineer, she is in HR). I was salaried with benefits and she temped and did not have healthcare.
We applied for a condo together (before marriage) and her credit prevented us from getting it. We removed her name, and her credit, and her income, and got it fine.
Since then the 3 mortgages we closed had both names and her much repaired credit score included.
I make 1/3 more than she does now, but she is clearly catching up to me and will pass me sooner or later. Since the day we combined checkbooks we never once said "this is my bill, this is your bill". We do divide paychecks into 5 different accounts (my check goes to 3 accounts, hers goes to two others and a portion of her check and mine are combined in one of them). The 5 accounts all have both names on them, we just divide them up because my original bank did not allow free internet transactions, so we opened a new checking and savings account at another bank
which did, then the patriot act restricted what could be paid from a savings account, so the 5th account was created.
I feel for the engineer- many times what we think is cool when we choose a field at age 18 is not what we thought it was when we start working in it at age 23. Maybe he enjoys teaching, and she needs to back off.