... I've only had one "used" car and it actually was a hand me down from my brother, so no I've never ever checked the oil at every fill up. My nissan maxima, had a "change oil" warning light to let me know the 3000 mile mark had been hit.
I now drive a 2012 Infiniti and once again I get the oil changed regularly but do not check the oil every 1000 miles. I'm pulling out the owners manual to see what it recommends. ...
Maybe it's just the way you worded it, but I get the impression you might be confusing the need for
oil changes with the need to check the
oil level?
Most modern cars have a system to tell you when to change the oil, either a simple one based on miles, or a more advanced one based on how you use the car (number of cold starts, operating temperature, and miles, etc). Oil gets contaminated and it breaks down over time, losing its effectiveness, and needs changing at some point. That's often around 10,000 miles now, so even a little oil usage can get you to being low.
But the oil level can go down, either through leaks (which can be internal and not easily noticed) or through being burnt in the engine (oil flows past valves and/or piston rings). It can happen suddenly in some cases, so you really should be checking every couple of fill ups. Especially with a car that is 'new' to you - you don't know its history.
I'm pulling out the owners manual to see what it recommends.
That's a good idea, please report back.
... after this experience, I've got to tell you I don't want another used car.
Well, any 10 year old car can have problems, its just part of the deal. You clearly would have paid more for a new car, not sure any comparison like that is relevant. But it might be that this could have been totally avoided by checking the fluid levels. That might have told you it was using a lot of oil, and you could have gone back and complained before the damage was done. Maybe they would have done something for you, or at least you would know you need to top it off from time to time. It's also possible it could be a relatively inexpensive fix if caught in time (a head gasket, or maybe a single bad valve guide).
-ERD50